TL;DR of the above for anyone else: Socializing is a muscle which can and should be exercised.
Which I actually wholeheartedly agree with. I had a similar experience to you, though not as extreme. I had maybe one friend, didn’t talk to people, considered myself an introvert, basically the typical person you’re talking about. Then I met someone who taught me how to exercise that muscle, and encouraged me to meet other people. Took some time, but I went from having one friend, to having over a dozen. And I’m capable of actually talking to people I don’t know now, instead of clamming up and getting anxious, most of the time. Barring certain physical or mental disabilities, I always try to encourage my introvert friends to talk to others more, as much as it’s a horribly embarrassing, awkward, and especially draining experience at first.
This all being said, you sound like a douche. Especially with that last paragraph. Chill, my dude. Don’t immediately assume you’re gonna be under attack. There’s hardly enough people on this site to spam you with replies anyways.
Thank you for the recognition of both what I have to say and that I am in fact, a douche. I have a lot of approaches for a lot of domains. I am antagonistic douche on Lemmy because it’s a pretty foul hugbox in most areas honestly. And I’ve been through a few. I rather make people mad and have them think about what I had to say and why it makes them mad than have another “happy super-supportive give-and-take” conversation that goes nowhere and is forgotten because the people who do always, always, always push back on this message in particular feel like they “won.” I don’t want upvotes or thanks, I want people to feel things and think about them.
I don’t know if it’s the best approach, but I don’t really care, I’ve been at this a while and I am really worried for the younger people who are isolating themselves from any friction at all. It’s becoming disastrous for our whole society because it’s allowing the worst people to take over using the most mentally held-back methods of being seen and heard. We need fucking warriors out there, not people who are afraid to challenge authority or be shouted at.
TL;DR of the above for anyone else: Socializing is a muscle which can and should be exercised.
Which I actually wholeheartedly agree with. I had a similar experience to you, though not as extreme. I had maybe one friend, didn’t talk to people, considered myself an introvert, basically the typical person you’re talking about. Then I met someone who taught me how to exercise that muscle, and encouraged me to meet other people. Took some time, but I went from having one friend, to having over a dozen. And I’m capable of actually talking to people I don’t know now, instead of clamming up and getting anxious, most of the time. Barring certain physical or mental disabilities, I always try to encourage my introvert friends to talk to others more, as much as it’s a horribly embarrassing, awkward, and especially draining experience at first.
This all being said, you sound like a douche. Especially with that last paragraph. Chill, my dude. Don’t immediately assume you’re gonna be under attack. There’s hardly enough people on this site to spam you with replies anyways.
Thank you for the recognition of both what I have to say and that I am in fact, a douche. I have a lot of approaches for a lot of domains. I am antagonistic douche on Lemmy because it’s a pretty foul hugbox in most areas honestly. And I’ve been through a few. I rather make people mad and have them think about what I had to say and why it makes them mad than have another “happy super-supportive give-and-take” conversation that goes nowhere and is forgotten because the people who do always, always, always push back on this message in particular feel like they “won.” I don’t want upvotes or thanks, I want people to feel things and think about them.
I don’t know if it’s the best approach, but I don’t really care, I’ve been at this a while and I am really worried for the younger people who are isolating themselves from any friction at all. It’s becoming disastrous for our whole society because it’s allowing the worst people to take over using the most mentally held-back methods of being seen and heard. We need fucking warriors out there, not people who are afraid to challenge authority or be shouted at.