My sister has done a lot of good things for other people but I have an extremely hard time appreciating her actions. She spends so much time telling people on social media and real life all the good she has done. To me it seems like she is doing good to be seen doing good. As if attention to herself is a currency.
I rarely share the stories of when I help people because often when I do, I’m reminded of the privileges I have in life. That’s not something I feel comfortable bragging about. It feels like I’m using the situation to make myself look better than I actually am if I brag about helping another person.
I think one of the many reason’s she doesn’t like me is because I refuse her help. I deny her the ability to brag about helping her little brother. Doing good to bring attention to herself is far more important to my sister than doing good because it’s the nice thing to do.
True, but there’s far more to this story than a few paragraphs can explain. She’s also very cruel and I spent far too many years in therapy because of her actions.
At least I have validation from my cousin’s recent interactions with her. He’s been unfortunate enough to see her other side and has shared those experiences with me.
He now understands why I have distanced myself from her throughout my life.
My sister has done a lot of good things for other people but I have an extremely hard time appreciating her actions. She spends so much time telling people on social media and real life all the good she has done. To me it seems like she is doing good to be seen doing good. As if attention to herself is a currency.
I rarely share the stories of when I help people because often when I do, I’m reminded of the privileges I have in life. That’s not something I feel comfortable bragging about. It feels like I’m using the situation to make myself look better than I actually am if I brag about helping another person.
I think one of the many reason’s she doesn’t like me is because I refuse her help. I deny her the ability to brag about helping her little brother. Doing good to bring attention to herself is far more important to my sister than doing good because it’s the nice thing to do.
There are worse types of people. At least it seems she is helping someone somehow…
Social media is a rot though.
True, but there’s far more to this story than a few paragraphs can explain. She’s also very cruel and I spent far too many years in therapy because of her actions.
At least I have validation from my cousin’s recent interactions with her. He’s been unfortunate enough to see her other side and has shared those experiences with me.
He now understands why I have distanced myself from her throughout my life.
Oh, I didn’t want to make it seem like I was taking sides or anything. Don’t worry.
I was purely judging her on the charity and attention seeking on social media, is all. I’ve seen people demonized for the very same before.