As a reasonably unattractive middle aged man, I do wish that some of the people in my workplace wouldn’t wear low necklines. I am fully aware that I’m not supposed to look and that my eyes aren’t the target of the clothing choices. I think it’s very rare indeed that I do look, but I can’t help but notice, ALL THE TIME I’m interacting with whoever it is. I find it very distracting and would rather not be distracted from the issue at hand. What I look at is under my conscious control, but my sexuality isn’t.
Someone in the comments mentioned that men should know not to stare from simple polite social etiquette. Yes. I know this. I live this. But if you’re talking social etiquette, I think you have to accept that it’s possible to be inappropriately dressed for the workplace. Wear whatever you like while you’re out in the evening, out in the street, out shopping, but while we’re at work, while I have no choice over who I interact with or for how long, please dress in a less distracting way.
Sorry if that makes you feel objectified or controlled, and I don’t want to make anyone unhappy, but also I don’t want to spend our planning meeting trying to ignore your breats.
There is limited space where I can put my eyesight at, and your breasts took up half of them by dressing in a revealing way.
You can’t expose your breasts then blame guys for starring. There are twenty pairs of breasts in the meeting room. It’s gonna be one pair of another. It’s your responsibility to protect your breasts as well.
As a reasonably unattractive middle aged man, I do wish that some of the people in my workplace wouldn’t wear low necklines. I am fully aware that I’m not supposed to look and that my eyes aren’t the target of the clothing choices. I think it’s very rare indeed that I do look, but I can’t help but notice, ALL THE TIME I’m interacting with whoever it is. I find it very distracting and would rather not be distracted from the issue at hand. What I look at is under my conscious control, but my sexuality isn’t.
Someone in the comments mentioned that men should know not to stare from simple polite social etiquette. Yes. I know this. I live this. But if you’re talking social etiquette, I think you have to accept that it’s possible to be inappropriately dressed for the workplace. Wear whatever you like while you’re out in the evening, out in the street, out shopping, but while we’re at work, while I have no choice over who I interact with or for how long, please dress in a less distracting way.
Sorry if that makes you feel objectified or controlled, and I don’t want to make anyone unhappy, but also I don’t want to spend our planning meeting trying to ignore your breats.
Why should men not stare at things women are intentionally showing them?
Bravo. Well said.
There is limited space where I can put my eyesight at, and your breasts took up half of them by dressing in a revealing way.
You can’t expose your breasts then blame guys for starring. There are twenty pairs of breasts in the meeting room. It’s gonna be one pair of another. It’s your responsibility to protect your breasts as well.