For example workplace harrasment by women towards males like touching or groping being ignored because the victim is male but if it where to happen to a woman by a male the male would be fired

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    3 months ago

    Had a gf way back in the day explain this to me. “When we’re venting we want emotional support. Stop trying to give us solutions.”

    Dated many women in the 25-years since I was given these wise words, seen the truth of that advice over and over. Yet I still struggle to STFU. It’s so prevalent among men, I wonder if we’re not hardwired to go into problem solving mode when confronted with an issue.

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      3 months ago

      I think it’s because we feel that we can find the solution to the problem, it will stop the pain that our partner is feeling at the situation.

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        3 months ago

        Because it is, right? Right?!? When your car brakes makes weird noises you replace them to fix it and stop whining. Why doesn’t this work with women too? /s

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          3 months ago

          I’m sorry you equated me saying we want to help our partner feel better with ‘stop whining’.