When I was a junior engineer, my manager would occasionally confide his frustrations to me in our weekly 1:1s. He would point out a project another team was working on and say, “I don’t believe that project will go anywhere, they’re solving the wrong problem.” I used to wonder, “But you are very senior, why don’t you just go and speak to them about your concerns?” It felt like a waste of his influence to not say anything.
So it’s quite ironic that I found myself last week explaining to a mentee why I thought a sister team’s project would have to pivot because they’d made a poor early design choice. And he rightfully asked me the same question I had years ago: “why don’t you just tell them your opinion?” It’s been on my mind ever since because I realized I’d changed my stance on it a lot over the years.
They want to keep their jobs, to earn their salaries, to live in peace.
They have fought wars, winning some, losing many, and have learned that opposing the system is not worth the cost.
More accurately, what they have learned is that wars have a cost, so they should not be fought lightly.
Yes, you have to pick your battles. Save it for when it is really needed.
Il faut cultiver notre jardins.