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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • This is really solid advice. Sometimes, I see people with rose colored glasses and always give them the benefit of the doubt that things are accidents. Eventually, they’ll so something that is so blatantly not an accident, I can’t see them the same any more. Now, rule of thumb, I can’t be friends with someone capable of malice.

    I had a friend I loved so much, it took me forever to see the real her, granted she was careful for many years to only show me what I wanted to see. When she revealed who she was, it took me a few years to come to terms with it. At first I thought she was going through a hard time. It wasn’t a phase.

    I wish I had your advice then, because I took a lot of hurt before I finally gave up. She is who she is and loving someone a lot and being patient won’t change that and I was just getting clobbered like a fool in the process.

















  • I’m in a similar category. Exactly the same about hating being outside because I’d rather be comfortable. In terms of people, I don’t want to exert the effort. The me that is so charming and delightful is a farce. It comes naturally, but leaves me so drained. Its comfortable being at home around my safe people and not having to fix my face when outsiders say something I don’t like.