If you believe your point is worth making, then your time isn’t wasted. There are more lurkers than commenters, and your words might have an impact of them without you realizing it.

Say it because you believe in it, and not because you want validation.

Some things aren’t worth engaging with, like when you know the other person can’t or doesn’t want to be reasoned with, or just wants to get a rise out of you.

Autumn is my favorite season, closely followed by winter because I associate those two seasons with coziness <3

I don’t like heat but I love the feeling of getting warm when it’s cold.

Thanks for the info! Which instances do you recommend that don’t collect data?

Communication. So many issues could be resolved by just talking to the person clearly and calmly instead of assuming they can read your mind and getting upset when they don’t respond the way you played out in your mind.

De-escalation. Even if you’re right, there’s a time and place where you need to let it go and revisit it at a more appropriate moment.

For a second I confused Tommy Cash with Tommy Wiseau and the quote still made sense.

How would you express both dominance and romance/affection at once? In your post you gave an example of “a big cuddly woman spoiling her partner with affection…” - Two people in a relationship might know the woman is the dominant one, but from a viewer’s perspective it just looks like cuddling. Those are the nuances that are hard to express to a viewer.

What you’re looking for is “gentle femdom”. Porn in general skews aggressive and performative, probably because that type of sex is easier to visualize than tender, loving emotions felt between a couple. The former is easier to watch without having to relate to it. The latter is more entertaining to experience than to watch.

If you’re tired to the point that you can’t retain any new information, it’s better to take a break and try later when you’re rested.

If I’m really determined to be productive I’ll do simple tasks that don’t require thinking, like making flashcards to use for later or writing out loose ideas and paragraphs that I’ll edit another time.