dating sucks cause people suck. collectively we hold ourselves to remarkably low standards.

Nah, I find it nearly impossible to have an orgasm with a condom. That, and it genuinely just hurts. I know there are specially made condoms for people on the larger side, but what’s the point? I really just don’t want to have sex with a condom. I’m happy to just not have sex. It’s not a big deal to wait until I’m with someone I love for the long term and have a conversation about long term solutions. I’m looking for a life partner, not a hookup, and condoms aren’t really a “every time you have sex for rest of your life” type solution, both in terms of efficacy and satisfaction.

After hearing about embryos/eggs being misused, I can’t trust my genetic material to some corporation. If I could do it myself that might be an option but hardware fails. I’d rather just keep my faculties intact and be discerning with who I have sex with.

It’s my personal opinion that having sex with a condom is worse than not having sex, and I’m not getting a vasectomy until I’m confident I never want kids. Their reversibility is dubious at best and it’s not worth the risk if you aren’t 100% sure. I’m pretty sure I’ll never have kids, but I’m not even confident enough about how I’ll feel a decade from now to get a tattoo… so making such a big choice is out of the question.

I’m happy to just not have sex with women who aren’t on birth control. If you feel this is wrong, the solution is simple. We can just not have sex together. Problem solved.