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Cake day: August 7th, 2023

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  • Some have been useful things about being more incisive, direct, clear, plainspoken.

    Others have just been that people are competitive and look for any advantage to get “ahead” and curry favor with the boss, even when there’s no competition, no prize, no winner, no advantage. They just feel that by “beating” someone they “win” somehow - or might in the future.

    In the latter case i console myself that a complement from one of my coworkers means almost nothing in the grand scheme of things and the promotions at my job hardly make a difference in pay but mean starting an hour earlier.











  • I’m nearly 43, so at the prime age of struggling to keep friendships alive. Here’s what I do - I appreciate I am not exactly a typical person - but also I don’t have kids which makes me slightly different anyway.

    I do comedy a lot. Helps with making friends.

    I also run in a run club

    I take classes - comedy/clown (i trained at a clown school instead of going to university), acting, swordfighting, tap dancing, music. Music is usually 1:1 but then I go to comedy and music jams and meet people.

    But one can extrapolate to - pottery, painting, robot building, hackathons, book clubs, political groups, conservation, hiking…

    Usually I wait til week 2 or 3 and suggest grabbing a bite or a drink before or after class. Do it enough and you just end up with friends who invite you to birthday parties and shit and now you have friends.

    And then my wife’s friends all have partners and we’ve formed a HABS (husbands and boyfriends) movie club. We are currently watching a Sylvester Stallone movie once a week.