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  • Ones that I deeply love to the core but wouldn’t consider comfort TV:

    • Sense8
    • Bojack Horseman
    • Fleabag (and I will probably never watch it again tbh)
    • Atlanta
    • Heated Rivalry

    Comfort shows:

    • Heated Rivalry (ya twice)
    • Law & Order: SVU (yes I know it’s copaganda but I will die for Olivia Benson and Elliot Stabler and you can pry this show from my cold dead fictional-cop-loving hands)
    • Red Dwarf
    • Doctor Who (the RTD era)
    • Dinosaurs (the criminally underrated puppet one from the 1990s that every adult needs to rewatch immediately)

    Honourable mentions for me have mostly been mentioned by other commenters but Schitt’s Creek, Arrested Development, The Good Place. And one I haven’t seen in this thread yet, Resident Alien!





  • I definitely don’t consider the end of the relationship a failure but the entire thing was the failure and leaving was the success.

    He wasn’t abusive or anything. He was also very Christian and it took me a while to realize that he was fetishizing me for being “bad” while simultaneously putting me on a pedastal. I feel so gross when I even think about it tbh. He wanted kids, wanted a marriage, I convinced myself I wanted that as well. Thankfully we never even got close to that. He criticized me constantly for drinking/weed (I was in my early 20s and in college and definitely wasn’t partaking anymore than your average party person), but he criticized me for it in the condescending fucking way only a religious person would.

    He also only brushed his teeth like twice a week… Something I only figured out when he stayed with me and my parents for a month and we didn’t have mouthwash for him to clean his mouth with daily??

    Talked about his previous ex pretty often too, about how heartbroken she had left him blah blah blah. Honestly there were a lot of red flags but I was young and infatuated.

    Last straw was when I had to cancel a trip to visit him to travel to my home country because my aunt was sick. He told me to “have fun” (in a completely serious tone, not sarcastically) and was sending me selfies throughout asking me which ones were better as I watched my aunt dying.

    I spiralled very soon after that, faced some of the darkest experiences of my life. But at least I broke up with him.

    I don’t think he was necessarily a bad person after all that, maybe just naive, but I will never trust any feelings of infatuation again. He’s probably the only person I’ve dated where I genuinely regret it.



  • Oof jeez I’ve been with my partner for 10 years and this sounds like such a familiar story. We’ve talked about splitting up but are giving couples therapy a chance for now. I really can’t see it going anywhere if he doesn’t choose to help himself though. I am too tired and feel like I am enabling more than anything.

    Glad to hear it worked out okay for you. Hope you’re well.



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    This is the original image. I cannot imagine any reason at all (other than a racist one) to do what they did in the post.

    Does not change the meaning, does not add humour. Why would someone edit the tinting for it to look that way?

    Also, adding in the Ebonics in the title (which I realize the poster also copied from reddit) doesn’t seem to help the argument that this wasn’t intended to be racially charged.







  • Not the types of places I’m talking about, but yes I run a grassroots organization, volunteer with several others and have also volunteered at bigger non-profits for many years. I can see where you’re coming from at non-profit orgs but when you’re in a completely volunteer run organization, depending on what it is, it’s absolutely a different environment. Yes, there’s always interpersonal conflict, but you move on because you have to. And of course there’s burnout but that’s why you take breaks.

    As foe the mental health thing, its the only thing that pulled me out of a deep depression and I have other friends that have said the same. If it’s not right for you, it’s not right for you, but for some people it works.


  • You know where you can find people who generally don’t suck and are less likely to be shallow capitalist boogers? Organizing spaces. Find someone doing something good locally. Get into social spaces that are “woke” where people are awesome and accommodating to mental health concerns and generally just want to make the world a better place. Importantly, make sure you find local folks and get out of the internet a bit.

    It’s getting two birds stoned at once, you do something good in this world that is, for the most part, going to shit, and you also gain friends, make nice memories, and hopefully start to heal.