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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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    • A solid, reliable, trusted, friend group. I’ve got a handful of people but some folks I know have like a whole crew.
    • At least one smart, hot, kind, loving, partner with at least one shared, actionable interest.
    • Power. Like, give me the infinity stones and I’ll fix the world.

    No other crisis at the moment, but you never know when you’re going to wake up with double cancer or whatever. I try to appreciate the nice moments.





  • Many people are kind of stupid. Not ignorant. But like, incapable or unwilling to evaluate what’s a good source and what’s nonsense. Also incapable of drawing plausible conclusions even when given good sources. It’s all emotional. It’s how you can have stuff like “the outgroup have all the money and power, but they’re also poor and taking all our welfare” at the same time. Feels truthy. Anti-vaxxers get the high of bonding with their anti-vax friends and feeling like they’re part of the in-group.

    There’s not really an answer. Invest in public education for 100 years, maybe. But we’re going always going to have authoritarians shitting life up for everyone.




  • New Jersey is fine. A lot of north jersey is overshadowed by NYC being right there. One of my friends moved here from florida, and one of her friends was like “Why don’t you move to jersey city? it’s cheaper” and she went “I didn’t move to new york to live in new jersey”. But even if you do live just outside the city and none of your friends want to visit, you’re still a short train ride away from it.

    I don’t know as much about south jersey, but, like, it’s fine. And unlike, I don’t know, Iowa, you can usually get on a train to a world class city.



  • I have very little patience for people who can’t or won’t do the hard thing. Like, yeah withdrawal is going to suck but sometimes you have to do something unpleasant to get something better.

    I mostly keep it to myself though. A lot of people have this problem. Not just about smoking.

    Conversations like

    “I’m so tired I don’t know why.”

    “When did you go to sleep and get up?”

    “Uh sleep at like 3am and up at 7am.”

    “Well that explains it. Why up so late?”

    “… YouTube videos.”

    “You should probably stop staying up so late watching videos so you’re not exhausted all day.”

    “No.”

    But I mostly keep it to myself because there’s not really anything I can do to make someone listen.