Best: My aunt’s wedding. Super quick ceremony. I and my cousins were all in the 6-11 year old age range. She had a piñata for us at the reception. We devoured candy and danced and ran around like maniacs, it was glorious.
Worst: Years later, one of those same cousins mentioned above gets married. In July. In Massachusetts. Outside. The heat and humidity were unbearable. And they KNEW the weather was gonna be shit, because the wedding program they handed out to everyone before the ceremony began was shaped like a fucking fan. THEY KNEW.
The ceremony finally ends and the catering staff makes everyone wait outside the dining hall in the heat for unknown reasons for another full hour. When we’re finally let in, the AC is struggling to keep up and it’s hot as hell in there, too. When the dinner is served, it is NOT the vegetarian lasagna I chose on the wedding invite, no, it’s a portabella mushroom burger. I hate mushrooms, I would have never chosen such a thing. They switched the menu out and didn’t tell anyone. Also, no open bar, wtf.
Just the wife. It was all about “serving God” and “by serving man you show your devotion to God”. There were uhh…ripples of unease going through the wife’s side when all that was said to put it lightly.
Lol. Typical. Leaving out the next verse conveniently.
Basically demanding that Husbands show the same love to wives as Christ did for the Church… Y’know, the Guy who said “I came not be served but to serve”, washed His disciples, ended up being crucified… But demanding a man love his wife that much may make him uneasy, and that’s not good for us men, is it? /s
I saw a sermon a while ago, and the pastor said that taking a bullet is easier than the day-to-day “dying” to yourself that you’ll have to do for your wife. Such as sacrificing things that you enjoy doing for her sake. But people don’t seem to understand that dynamic.
I don’t like religions in general and a lot of the reason is the shitty way (some) adherents feel they can treat women and other minorities and it’s just a-okay dandy because their magic li’l book told them it’s okay. I went to that wedding I mentioned when I was just a pre teen and it really sorta cemented the fact that there’s so much bullshit going on with that and just…no one deserves to deal with that. Just love each other and be happy y’all, it doesn’t seem so complicated to me.
In terms of Christianity, it doesn’t even say that’s okay. It’s just someone using it to justify their actions instead of critically examining the text, and wanting to be tribal.