- cross-posted to:
- hackernews
- cross-posted to:
- hackernews
Users from 4chan claim to have discovered an exposed database hosted on Google’s mobile app development platform, Firebase, belonging to the newly popular women’s dating safety app Tea. Users say they are rifling through peoples’ personal data and selfies uploaded to the app, and then posting that data online, according to screenshots, 4chan posts, and code reviewed by 404 Media.
Why is everything we do, when we band together, seen as suspect and dangerous?
It’s suspect and dangerous due to its design, not the fact that it’s used by women. If there were an app where employers could rate their employees, it would have the same problems and I’d feel the same way about it.
Don’t look up something called, and I’m not remembering it perfectly, ‘the number,’ in the US, anyway.
This is a safety feature of women social groups for time immemorial. It’s a piece of how we survived prior to the last 50 years, and it continued as we moved forward into the era of liberation. We talk to each other.
I realize the “guy code” is one of silence. Cheating? Bros won’t say anything or warn anyone, by this code. In fact, the opposite is demanded by that code. Woman do the opposite, that is how the woman code works. I’ve witnessed fallout in friend groups when these diametrically opposed codes meet on regards to another friend. Apparently, having lunch with the cheated on woman and letting her know what is happening is applauded by women and enraging to men.
The piece regarding cheating is about integrity and treating people right in addition to safety. The rest of it is usually just about safety.
We survived millennia between being treated like prized horses. uteruses/vaginas with life support systems attached, and animals to be beaten, by talking to each other. Warning each other. Helping each other, where able.
The anger here, from you, is 100% expected, but the ordinary nature of that anger doesn’t make women wrong for exposing safety concerns in the dating pool. Given the myriad of diseases, including the incredible comeback of syphilis the last couple years, cheating is also a safety concern. Cheating should be exposed, always.
I was not aware of this! I’ll have to consult my bro handbook.
What anger I have is directed towards the shitty website that didn’t protect their users’ very private data, and I assume that’s where yours is, too. (And, of course, 4chan, but fuck 4chan all day, every day.)
I don’t know anything about your “guy code”. I don’t view other men as my allies just because we share a gender, and I don’t view women as adversaries just because they have a different gender. I try to treat everybody the same regardless of gender. I’m not perfect, of course, since I grew up in the same fucked-up patriarchy as everybody else, but I do my best.
You seem to have very black-and-white thinking.
I’m actually neutral on this statement. I haven’t had this experience, but if I knew that a friend was being cheated on, I think that the appropriate thing to do would be to inform them. If both the cheater and the cheatee were my friends, that would make things harder, and I would have a dilemma. If my friend is the cheater and I’m not friends with the cheatee, then I’m minding my own business. Again, though, I haven’t had this experience, so it’s hard to say what I would do for sure.