32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they’ve gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you’re an average looking man?

  • untorquer@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    Profile:

    • full body pic
    • face pic
    • pic showing interests
    • pic showing social life
    • description taking about your interests and what you want to do (hiking, games, sports, clubs, whatever, open to new things, etc… Don’t be shy about nerd shit)
    • be honest.
    • be positive.

    Behavior:

    • pick one day a week.
    • pick one hour on that day, preferably the later half of your most normal schedule, or around 6pm otherwise.
    • swipe for no more than 15 minutes/app in that hour.
    • Most important: Look at people’s profiles, be VERY picky. Swipe right ONLY on people you actually want to TALK to. If that’s 3 out if 100 it’s actually a good thing.
    • do this for 3-6weeks if you’re M4F.

    The goal is to train the algorithm on the types of people YOU like. If you swipe right on everything it learns nothing and will show you people, and show you to people who share much less potential interest in a date.

    This limited swipe schedule is also to combat brain-rot incelification and burnout. Sucks to be alone but go touch a tree and hang out with friends. No friends? I know it sucks shit but you gotta start there. Do the stuff you like doing around other people and take pictures. Helps with the profile, softens the loneliness, and you’ll have people to confide in after a bad date.

    Lastly, if you abused your account before(swiping right indiscriminately) it may be messed up. Let it sit a few weeks before trying again.