(Don’t share your real name, obviously)

Okay so, wall of text warning:

My legal name is a Chinese name, three characters.

Family name (one character) is said/written first, then the given name (two characters for me… and I assume for most people).

Its a very interesting name, and overall naming system, each character has meaning, well other than the family name which I don’t think it really means anything.

My older brother’s first character is the same as mine, only the second character is different. (It’s [Family Name] + [Character A] + [Character B], Character A is the same.)

I have never met anyone with my exact name, well to be fair, being in the US made those odds even rarer. I did meet someone with the same family name in a US school, and they also had the same DoB as me, which was very weird coincidence.

But my name is so rare in the US, if it ever got leaked, that’s practically a unique identifier.

When I look at my name, idk I kinda feel a sense of antiquity. I have a genology book and the pages are falling apart, I had to scan it and made a .pdf from it. I mean those names are from hundred of years ago, I guess they had to keep remaking/rewriting those books because I doubt something from pre-1800s would’ve survived till now. It makes modern tech feel so futuristic when I think about it, I mean, that geneology book could potentially live om forever, without any deterioation unlike a book.

But simultaneously, when I look at my name, it kinda reminds me of my parent’s emotional abusive and neglectful behaviors. Ugh, idk, feels so conflicted about it. I really wanna ask questions about the past, but we aren’t really on speaking-terms anymore.

When people ask my name, it’s always just so awkward, since… the pronounciation is totally foreign to them. I kinda wanted to choose an English name for simplicity here in the US, but like… I didn’t pick one when I was younger and I think its kinda too late to use one now. Idk what name to even choose.

  • SaneMartigan@aussie.zone
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    I got a odd religious name that I’ve since dropped for my Anglo name. It’s been a drag my whole life having a weird fucking name. So many people asking the same five or so questions everytime I meet someone. When I meet people with the regular name, no one gets a view into my history and my hippie upbringing, which I felt sort of immediately put me on the back foot with more conservative types. It’s certainly ruined a few job applications. I’ve had a few hospital stays where every person who came made the same dumb small talk about the name. My last surgery the change of name forms had gone through and no one asked me why I’m called Andrew, which tbh was glorious.

    e: Note I’m a white guy with Irish/Brittish DNA.