Yes. Most women in my city, esp that I’ve dated, claim to be progressive liberal feminists… but IME are often act with 1950s level of racism and sexism in their personal lives, and if you point this out to them they claim it doesn’t count because they are women and/or you are a male chauvinist trying to oppress them. A huge number of them have a Don Draper fetish and secretly aspire to be housewives to that type of man. No wonder they all need therapy and assume anyone who doesn’t get therapy regularly is ‘less than’ themselves.
Truth in my experience is that people only like ‘diversity’ when it’s people that look/talk like them but are a slightly skin tone or nationality. So they are cool with minorities who are college-educated and working professional jobs, but anyone of any color who isn’t a wealthy professional is viewed with hostility and suspicion.
Most people have a pecking order in their heads. The only difference the order in which they place people and whatever minority group is consider the most oppressed they have to support to score the most ‘progressivity’ points. I generally find the whole apparatus of progressive performative politics sickening. Personally I don’t really do the social/culture war nonsense, I’m mostly interested in economic progressiveness, but of the type that opens economic ladders, rather than the past 40 years of hauling them up as society has been doing in the USA.
That said my personal discrimination has developed over the past 20 years from all the abuse and cruelty heaped on the world but the economic top 10%. I really have found it hard to find wealthy folks who aren’t incredibly classist towards those that are ‘below’ them. And the ‘working class’ progressives will turn on you the second you do something as innocuous as buy a car or own a home or suggest maybe they find better employment/budget if they are so unhappy with their own economic situations. Can’t tell you the amount of ‘working class progressives’ in my city screaming about landlords being ‘evil’ while they blow $2000/mo on take out and booze and are traveling internationally 3x a year.
I have a fairly unique perspective on these issues. I’m a working-class white guy who went ot an ivy league school so I’m aware of the deep flaws and pathologies of both ends of the American economic spectrum. I’ve held a job since I was 15 years old and paid for my own education. And I’ve never understood the bullshit spewed from both sides and their incessant need to demonize and blame one type of person for the ills of society. For the right it’s the poor/immigrants/minorities. For the elite progressives it’s working-class white men. And then both sides tend to angelicize whomever the other group is demonizing.
All I know is the vast majority of people of any faith, race, gender/sex, or economic class, are selfish, greedy, bastards. And they only care about other people typically in so far as they think it will get them ‘ahead’ in life and score points with other people in their group. Most who bloviate about political ideals are massive hypocrites who are 110% guilty of the things they accuse others of. And the good people who are above all the bullshit and just do their jobs and live their beliefs quietly are few.
Yes. Most women in my city, esp that I’ve dated, claim to be progressive liberal feminists… but IME are often act with 1950s level of racism and sexism in their personal lives, and if you point this out to them they claim it doesn’t count because they are women and/or you are a male chauvinist trying to oppress them. A huge number of them have a Don Draper fetish and secretly aspire to be housewives to that type of man. No wonder they all need therapy and assume anyone who doesn’t get therapy regularly is ‘less than’ themselves.
Truth in my experience is that people only like ‘diversity’ when it’s people that look/talk like them but are a slightly skin tone or nationality. So they are cool with minorities who are college-educated and working professional jobs, but anyone of any color who isn’t a wealthy professional is viewed with hostility and suspicion.
Most people have a pecking order in their heads. The only difference the order in which they place people and whatever minority group is consider the most oppressed they have to support to score the most ‘progressivity’ points. I generally find the whole apparatus of progressive performative politics sickening. Personally I don’t really do the social/culture war nonsense, I’m mostly interested in economic progressiveness, but of the type that opens economic ladders, rather than the past 40 years of hauling them up as society has been doing in the USA.
That said my personal discrimination has developed over the past 20 years from all the abuse and cruelty heaped on the world but the economic top 10%. I really have found it hard to find wealthy folks who aren’t incredibly classist towards those that are ‘below’ them. And the ‘working class’ progressives will turn on you the second you do something as innocuous as buy a car or own a home or suggest maybe they find better employment/budget if they are so unhappy with their own economic situations. Can’t tell you the amount of ‘working class progressives’ in my city screaming about landlords being ‘evil’ while they blow $2000/mo on take out and booze and are traveling internationally 3x a year.
I have a fairly unique perspective on these issues. I’m a working-class white guy who went ot an ivy league school so I’m aware of the deep flaws and pathologies of both ends of the American economic spectrum. I’ve held a job since I was 15 years old and paid for my own education. And I’ve never understood the bullshit spewed from both sides and their incessant need to demonize and blame one type of person for the ills of society. For the right it’s the poor/immigrants/minorities. For the elite progressives it’s working-class white men. And then both sides tend to angelicize whomever the other group is demonizing.
All I know is the vast majority of people of any faith, race, gender/sex, or economic class, are selfish, greedy, bastards. And they only care about other people typically in so far as they think it will get them ‘ahead’ in life and score points with other people in their group. Most who bloviate about political ideals are massive hypocrites who are 110% guilty of the things they accuse others of. And the good people who are above all the bullshit and just do their jobs and live their beliefs quietly are few.