Have profile pictures that aren’t trying too hard, but show you reasonably well groomed, having fun, and at least one picture with others.
Have a basic write-up that shows a little personality, maybe make a cheesy dog joke or just something to lighten the mood.
Be honest what you’re looking for but use code words. Say something like… “I’ve been single for a while and I’m just looking for company, friendship and whatever happens. Open to long-term just not rushing”
When you do make a match, I don’t care if it humiliates you to your soul, tell a few crappy dad jokes to break the ice. It’s not about quality comedy, you just have to put the woman at ease and make her smile and let her know that you can joke around together.
You can refer to getting together to have sex as getting together to watch a movie or show. You test the water by hinting that you would like to be together at one another’s residence, but you don’t talk about it as sex, Even though both you and the woman know you’re having sex. I don’t know why women are this way but it’s just easier.
Honestly? Because there’s fifteen guys in my DMs offering to take me to pound town or sending me wildly unsolicited pics of their dicks or trying to get feet pics or telling me how smart and intellectual I seem - seriously, listen, if I just wanted to get railed (and I had no standards) it would take me less than two minutes to set that up. And every woman’s inbox is like that, I promise you. If you don’t put in at least a little bit of effort to stand out from the sea of unsolicited dickpics, marriage proposals, negging and general ‘horny’ we get every day, we’re just gonna gloss over your message. It’s not personal just, there’s so many messages every day that I don’t even have time to read them all. If I do read the message, and it’s just the same thing as always, why spend time responding to that message instead of one of the (depressingly few) that seem like they might be fun and interesting and indicates the sender has the barest minimum of social aptitude?
And all this is coming from the perspective of an unabashed slut. You wanna land a lady with a bit of class? You actually have to, like, try a little bit. Otherwise there’s just so much noise from the unwashed masses of horny, they’ll probably never even notice you. It’s horrible, I don’t know a single woman that likes this, but it’s just the reality we’re stuck with.
if I just wanted to get railed (and I had no standards) it would take me less than two minutes to set that up.
I actually wonder what the conversion rate would be for people who send DMs like that. I imagine a big chunk of them are like dogs chasing cars, and wouldn’t know what to do it the car just stopped in the road.
I’m thinking a significant percentage wouldn’t follow through if the conversation turned to an invite to meet in person.
Have profile pictures that aren’t trying too hard, but show you reasonably well groomed, having fun, and at least one picture with others.
Have a basic write-up that shows a little personality, maybe make a cheesy dog joke or just something to lighten the mood.
Be honest what you’re looking for but use code words. Say something like… “I’ve been single for a while and I’m just looking for company, friendship and whatever happens. Open to long-term just not rushing”
When you do make a match, I don’t care if it humiliates you to your soul, tell a few crappy dad jokes to break the ice. It’s not about quality comedy, you just have to put the woman at ease and make her smile and let her know that you can joke around together.
You can refer to getting together to have sex as getting together to watch a movie or show. You test the water by hinting that you would like to be together at one another’s residence, but you don’t talk about it as sex, Even though both you and the woman know you’re having sex. I don’t know why women are this way but it’s just easier.
Honestly? Because there’s fifteen guys in my DMs offering to take me to pound town or sending me wildly unsolicited pics of their dicks or trying to get feet pics or telling me how smart and intellectual I seem - seriously, listen, if I just wanted to get railed (and I had no standards) it would take me less than two minutes to set that up. And every woman’s inbox is like that, I promise you. If you don’t put in at least a little bit of effort to stand out from the sea of unsolicited dickpics, marriage proposals, negging and general ‘horny’ we get every day, we’re just gonna gloss over your message. It’s not personal just, there’s so many messages every day that I don’t even have time to read them all. If I do read the message, and it’s just the same thing as always, why spend time responding to that message instead of one of the (depressingly few) that seem like they might be fun and interesting and indicates the sender has the barest minimum of social aptitude?
And all this is coming from the perspective of an unabashed slut. You wanna land a lady with a bit of class? You actually have to, like, try a little bit. Otherwise there’s just so much noise from the unwashed masses of horny, they’ll probably never even notice you. It’s horrible, I don’t know a single woman that likes this, but it’s just the reality we’re stuck with.
I actually wonder what the conversion rate would be for people who send DMs like that. I imagine a big chunk of them are like dogs chasing cars, and wouldn’t know what to do it the car just stopped in the road.
I’m thinking a significant percentage wouldn’t follow through if the conversation turned to an invite to meet in person.
Social expectations and cultural norms.