I made a similar post a couple of years ago, but I think it’s time again after seeing a few nice-guy/incel posts here. So, guys who have made it to the other side, what would you say to your previous self? I’ll leave my own personal answer in a comment below.
What is considered incel? I did not have sex until my late twenties and I would have been totally fine having it earlier but I did not consider it awful that I had not. Honestly I was not looking for relationships much per se in high school but if I hit it off with someone would start dating.
Incel used to mean someone who wants sex but can’t get it. In fact, it was a girl who invented the term specifically because she meant to start a sort of support group where these kinds of people could talk about their experiences and support each other. Sadly, her group got very quickly taken over by bitter misogynistic men who blamed women for all of their problems when the reason they weren’t having sex was their own personality and thus shifted the definition of the word to, well, that.
while incel is short of “involuntary celibate”, is someone who is also is a very bigoted person (and mains on misogyny).
if you are a decent person who hasn’t had sex, you do not qualify as an incel (even if you yearn for it a lot, being cruel is key to be an incel)