• FreshParsnip@lemmy.ca
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    17 hours ago

    I dislike that The Big Bang Theory gives the impression it’s extremely rare for women to be pop culture nerds. I’m a woman who loves marvel movies and Star Wars and Star Trek and hope to one day find a boyfriend who likes those things too

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      Big Bang Theory is stuck in some '90s ideas of nerds.

      Back then, people would joke that guys would never find a girlfriend while playing DnD. Now I have a pair of friends who got married and originally bonded as part of our DnD group, and that seems completely normal.

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      It is rare. I’ve had dozens of women partners and only one was ever a nerd. the vast majority of women are not nerds and male nerdiness in the general population is frowned upon. almost every woman i have ever met my entire life also looks down on ‘nerdy’ things.

      on internet forums, yes, it’s more highly represented. most women nerds i’ve ever known were from internet forums/groups.

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      I often talk to people who call themselves nerds, and what they mean is that they like marvel movies. Like the biggest most seen movie franchise that is out there. Star wars has gained almost as much traction, it just flopped hard and harder. I’m not here to gatekeep, but when someone tells me they are a nerd because they watch marvel movies, then we probably need a new term.

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        yeah or harry potter.

        they are just casual consumers of popular media franchises.

        but start getting detailed about things and they will be socially turned off.

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        I think there is a difference between casually watching marvel movies and a fan like me who regularly watches them over again and marathons them in preparation for the next one. For example, in preparation for Thor 4, I rewatched all of the Thor and Avengers movies.

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          that’s not any different than people who watch the office over and over.

          you’re a superfan of the movies. but you’re not reading every comic religiously, going to every con, etc.

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      All of those things are main stream now though, aren’t they? Those are all super popular nowadays, everyone and their grandma are marvel fans it seems like, it’s rarer to find someone who ISN’T a Marvel fan. Big bang theory is just out of touch and relying on old stereotypes. But women are just as nerdy/geeky/whatever you want to call it as men I’ve always found, they’re just more hesitant to show it off or geek out about it in public for fear of getting those really creepy gatekeeping dudes coming up and “well akschually unless you can name the tree used in the brand of paper used in the original printing of Deadpool number 42 you’re not a real fan”. Have seen shit like that happen to women friends of mine in public who were WAY more into comics and more knowledgable about all that than I was unfortunately.