I’m probably just an asshole nobody wants to talk to, but I can hardly even get a reply text from anyone anymore. A couple people have told me that they are just feeling burnt out/depressed/etc and don’t have even enough energy to answer a message anymore. But I’ve also had some long time friends just entirely ghost me in the last year as well with no explanation. It feels like I’m surrounded by NPCs. I’ve basically just stopped reaching out to anyone at this point. Outside of my work, literally the only people I talk to are my parents, sister, and my girlfriend. Everyone else seems dead inside. I used to have at least 10 people who I could call on a moments notice and all of those people are gone.
It’s always felt like I’ve been the one to message first and check in on people
You’re getting a lot of shit in the comments from people that I think is undeserved, at least based on what you have said so far.
I feel this feeling, too. I have always been one to reach out and organize and I have become tired of feeling like the only person that does that. Provided you aren’t actively doing anything wrong, I really feel like these other commenters are missing something.
When people like me, who want to organize, start feeling like no one wants it: what happens?
stop doing it then. you’ll feel better.
i did and my life is happier. it’s ok to be selfish and not be a ‘facilitator’ for other people. putting energy into relationships that leave you feeling drained is a no-win situation. and many people are happy to suck the life out of you.
my friends that remain… well when i interact with them i don’t feel that way. i feel like i get back what i put in. but yes i have way fewer social interactions.
same with romance. i used to put out a lot and get little in return… now i’d rather be alone and put my energy into myself. it’s way more rewarding