I’m probably just an asshole nobody wants to talk to, but I can hardly even get a reply text from anyone anymore. A couple people have told me that they are just feeling burnt out/depressed/etc and don’t have even enough energy to answer a message anymore. But I’ve also had some long time friends just entirely ghost me in the last year as well with no explanation. It feels like I’m surrounded by NPCs. I’ve basically just stopped reaching out to anyone at this point. Outside of my work, literally the only people I talk to are my parents, sister, and my girlfriend. Everyone else seems dead inside. I used to have at least 10 people who I could call on a moments notice and all of those people are gone.
I realised in recent times that my friends, whom I’ve befriended since secondary school, grew in different ways. They garnered influences beyond my own, and in a natural fashion became different people.
This happens sometimes, and it’s not anyone’s fault, however the people we both became (keeping in mind I most certainly have changed, over the years, in the same light) had a polarising effect on our friendships.
So I called it quits, however with the intention of finding new friends. Being with the same people, at least for me, prevented me from properly engaging in circles which would suit me better by today’s terms.
Honestly it didn’t take too long, I just dived into social situations where I would more likely find like-minded individuals. I’ve made a bunch of friends since, and we already get along better than the ones I no longer speak to now.
Surround yourself with things you yourself enjoy, within a social setting, and you’re more likely to be around people there for similar connections. You’d surely have a lot more to talk about too.
Don’t be too upset about people moving on in different ways though, people grow and some people grow apart. Make sure you continue to grow, is all.