At 14 I started looking at gay furry art on reddit, just because it was really cute, not because I was bi or anything. That same year I had meet a really cool guy friend who I started to develop feelings for, so that was when I actually realized I was bi. Since that, when I was 18 I realized I was genderflux because I was hanging out at a friend’s party playing video games and I had the odd desire to only play as female characters. I did know that was a common trans experience at the time so I knew something was up.
Around 14 or 15 and was terrified of anyone in my family finding out so I kept that realization locked down. I actually never came out to my family as a queer woman. Then, in my 30s, one of my jesus freak aunts found a picture of me and my then girlfriend on said girlfriend’s social media page, still to this day don’t know how, and sent it to my entire family. Boy howdy was that a to-do.
12 i realized i liked boys and girls
I thought everyone was sexually attracted to all genders at least a little bit until I learned that no, straight people are actually straight.
25 when my therapist at the time helped me realize what LGBT actually fucking was and not what the media betrayal of it is.
Basically when someone told me what It actually is instead of a “disease” or “disorder”
At 15 I was fantasizing with people my own gender.
Somehow until 25 or something I wouldn’t realize I was bi.
I was 17 I realized I was trans. A revelation that helped me better understand my sexuality as well. Turns out I’m bi/pan. I did spend several years just assuming I was ace because the idea of sex didn’t interest me until I realized I was a woman.
Roughly 14 or 15, I realized pretty early on I’m Asexual but took until I was 17 to realize I’m trans :3
37- My spouse realized they were nonbinary, which made me do some self examination and realize I wasn’t as cis as I thought I was.
11 and the revelation was delivered by a wet dream. I mean I looked at dicks online before “to compare” but did not realize I was attracted to it. After realizing that it just took about 5 years to start sharing that with my closest friends and another 8 years to share with my family and other friends. Started dating with 26 and have been in a happy relationship ever since (though I would love more fuck buddies, as I am still rather inexperienced there).
I discovered I was good at flirting at 17. I also discovered that as soon as a girl starts making out with me or getting handsy I lose interest. My brain is like “yay, validation, we won, okay let’s go get a snack.”
Took me over a year to learn that asexuality is a spectrum and that there are other people who like sex in theory but can be repulsed by (or indifferent to) it in practice.
Did you ever have a “maybe I’m bi” phase?
I’m asking because an Asexual youtuber stated they thought they had an equal attraction to men and women, before realizing that they did like the equally… at 0 attraction.
I know this sounds crazy, but i did kiss and makeout my same-sex female friends at a sleepover when we were 8-9 years old because we wanted to “practice” (y’all, don’t let kids have unrestricted/unmonitored internet 😭), but I never thought of them in a girlfriend/date way. I thought I liked a close girl friend in middle school, but once I got to high school I realized I’ve never had butterflies, wet dreams, or any desire to kiss any boys or girls that I met.
At this point, I think I’m asexual (or maybe demi). I know that graysexuals can still have some sexual attraction or like having sex, so I don’t feel any doubt/imposter syndrome for reading smut (hey, some aces write smut).
Anyway to add to the overall thread I’ve been questioning since 10 or so, and going with Ace since 16 or so.
After kissing a girl for a first time, realizing I wasn’t into it, my first thought was “oh fuck what if I’ve been gay this whole time?” That night I looked up gay porn 😂 I was very much grossed out and definitely didn’t feel the arousal I would from women.
I did eventually kiss a guy at college because I’m a scientist lol and yeah despite him being a good looking dude, honestly not a fan. Sadly I think I’m just sex repulsed by men
Anyway I’m also aromantic. All my guy friends and girl friends would obsess over crushes and think about lives together or being in a relationship and I didn’t get any of that. Like why should I care who a person sees apart from me?
(Also, me, I am an ace who writes smut lololol at least I did in highschool)
Ayyyye similar! Ive always been a bit flirty but just have no interest in sex. I didn’t admit I was ace until 36 or so. I tried many ways I just don’t care lol
I haven’t tried too many times, but I’ve discovered it’s kind of just interesting to see how different people like different things.
And hey it is nice to meet another similar ace. Most aces I meet online or otherwise are completely sex repulsed. Then again I suppose I haven’t met many aces online or in person lol
~30. I can’t be more precise, It was a long process realizing that what I am falls under LGBTQ. Maybe. I’m still afraid of being excluded.
hey, I see you also have that self doubt that comes free with “finding shit out about yourself in your 30s”.
I always thought I was “a little bi.” Growing up in the '80s in a religious household, I repressed tons. I didn’t realize that I was fully bisexual, or consider myself really “LBGTQ” until my forties.
12 or 13. but it took until I was 18 before I admitted it to myself and came out.
the 90s were a different time.
That’s a pretty good timeline for the 90s, all things considered
Yeah, I was pretty lucky. I knew/ know a lot of people who had it much worse.
Around 15-16. I used to browse 4chan during it’s heavy trap phase and realized I don’t mind if they have a penis as long as they look like a girl
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