• hedge_lord@lemmy.world
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        This is true, but I cannot talk to my cat about that and I want to not assume, so I just use they/them for them. Other people seem to dislike that though and want to decide it based on their genitals.

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    I need to know so I can deliberately use the other pronoun if needed, just to be a bigoted asshole.

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      I knew a lady, new mother, who insisted on putting her baby in green or yellow rather than pink or blue.

      Which, wouldn’t be something to make fun of except she got furious when people misgendered the baby boy. Even more furious when some jackass named me got fed up and started referring to the baby as “it”.

      She didn’t catch the point. The husband did, though.

      (Hindsight says I should have used “they” but they’ve subsequently turned weirdly conservative, so maybe that would have pissed her off just as much.)

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        That clue at the end suggests what was really going on there. Some degree of crazy. Not really getting the point trans SJWs are making.

        Insisting on gender neutral pronouns for pre-language kids is dumb, and only the rarest of crazies would ever do it or insist others do it. It’s child abuse plain and simple. I have no doubt the original idea came from an anti-woke Internet troll which blew up in the media.

        We’re as woke as you can get. We dressed our boy with whatever hand-me-downs, sometimes “girls’ colors”. He had lots of hair for a baby. Most people assumed he was a girl. We only corrected friends who of course we would see again. Never a tense moment, lol.

        If he shows any signs of being a girl on the inside, we’ll cross that bridge when we get there. The answer is not to resist if they insist despite all reasonable attempts to keep the status quo. That’s when you start considering whether to seek a professional child psychologist and go from there.

        Sorry for the Ted talk, but we’re all out of kilter on this subject around the world now.

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          Modern gender stuff is a tasty subject to obsess over. But it’s a product sold to us by whoever sells such things. It’s purely synthetic. An astroturfing flower.

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            It’s important to those people whose lives are affect who long for validation and legitimacy in the culture. They made great strides amidst women’s rights and gay rights getting across the line, but the world wasn’t quite as ready for trans rights to be brought to the forefront of public awareness.

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          She wasn’t insisting on gender neutral pronouns.

          Sje was angry people didn’t know her son was a son. Which they didn’t know because they were never told before (directly or indirectly). She intentionally chose to obscure gender for some reason and then got pissed people got confused.

          I should have used “they” because babies aren’t “it”s, I could care less about disrespecting the mother, but the kid didn’t deserve that.

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            No worries. Yeah, definitely crazy and abusive. Setting other people up to be rude, only so you can scold them is weird Machiavellian behavior.

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        The wrong one, obviously. With the “right” one being the one a person insists upon. It’s okay to guess incorrectly the first time.

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          If you disagree with the whole concept then agreeing is patronizing. And we wouldn’t want that.