There’s a good podcast called Your Parenting Mojo. She also does a parenting workshop called Taming Your Triggers. I’ve never taken the workshop, but the podcast has helped me a lot.

Essentially, the problem comes when parents have their own unresolved issues that make parents get triggered by children. Also, many times children are seen as an inconvenience to be controlled and silenced. If a parent can see a child as a person whose feelings and needs are valid, then it really changes the perspective and has certainly changed how I parent. The number of times I get annoyed by my children has gone way down (once I’ve actually reflected to deal with getting to the bottom of my own internal issues) and the solutions are now geared towards getting everyone’s needs met.