Context: I’m trying to put myself in my parents perspective.

By “kids”, this includes those that have already reached the age of majority (i.e. adult children)

  • TerrabyteMarx@quokk.auEnglish
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    2 days ago

    That sounds rough but isn’t that what the standard should be though? Accommodation for a panic disorder. Isn’t that the whole point of having a kid, that there’s an implied possibility you may be taking care of them for the rest of your lives?

    I wouldn’t have been able to push through panic attacks that bad, phone call or not, it’s likely I wouldn’t be driving again.

    • MagicShel@lemmy.zipEnglish
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      2 days ago

      My first response is yes but it sucked.

      But there is a more nuanced response that goes something like we have an obligation to all of our kids and to the point that his dysfunction made us unable to take care of our other kids either directly through time demands or by extension through exhausting us to the point where we couldn’t care for ourselves and thus for them, you have to do a bit of triage.

      Who do we have the greater obligation to, a 25 year old man or a 10 and 12 year old? Also he could have spread it around a bit, but he couldn’t be honest with his dad or grandpa what he was going through. He expected us to all but kill ourselves so he could conceal what he was going through from people who wouldn’t understand or would lose respect for him. He expected us to forsake obligations such as work and siblings, which could lead to loss of job and all the itinerant complications of that. That’s all kinda bullshit, right?

      Hell he was on our insurance, so losing our jobs would’ve directly harmed him in any event.