Long story short I have never been successful in dating in any shape or form and it’s starting to really affect my everyday life. I have been in therapy for over 7 years (recently quit) to no avail. I am already on antidepressants which thankfully dampens my libido a bit but I now I want it all the way gone.

So anyway, should I tell my family about this? Nothing will really change if I do, but a part of me is telling they ought to know, you know? But I am not sure if I want to.

  • throwawaysalami@discuss.onlineOP
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    12 hours ago

    Just because you’ve been unsuccessful so far doesn’t mean you’re forever alone.

    It’s bit a of a personal rabbit hole to get into here in Lemmy. But let’s just say it’s more than just being alone.

    Removing your libido won’t keep you from being lonely.

    I am not lonely, though. I am quite socially active. I have a ton of hobbies (I dance, I climb, I golf, I skateboard, I also go to the gym ALOT, I am also part of a board of a social club) I just don’t want to be attracted to women anymore, basically.

    You say you were in therapy for 7 years. What kind? Was it all with the same therapist?

    Mostly CBT, but also “regualr” therapy. Three different psychologists.

    You say you’ve been unsuccessful in dating. What does that mean?

    To but it blankly I am still a virgin. And I feel unlovable. Whether successful or not successful at this point. I feel like I don’t want to have any sort of relationship anymore because I feel like it just won’t give me any salvation.

    • scytale@piefed.zipEnglish
      131·
      11 hours ago

      Not a doctor, but wouldn’t the procedure also affect your ability to do your hobbies and social activities due to hormones being affected, like muscle loss or whatever? I imagine that will even worsen your situation if it affects other aspects of your life as well.