Long story short I have never been successful in dating in any shape or form and it’s starting to really affect my everyday life. I have been in therapy for over 7 years (recently quit) to no avail. I am already on antidepressants which thankfully dampens my libido a bit but I now I want it all the way gone.
So anyway, should I tell my family about this? Nothing will really change if I do, but a part of me is telling they ought to know, you know? But I am not sure if I want to.
To answer your question: you probably shouldn’t tell them if you don’t want drama.
I’m an older man. In the past decade, my libido has decreased significantly. I used to fixate on sex. I’d feel incredibly frustrated when a perceived opportunity for sex fell through. I spent an unhealthy amount of time looking at porn. A constant desire for sex complicated my romantic relationships.
Now that my libido is lower, sex feels like a fun activity. A missed opportunity is a minor disappointment, rather than severely frustrating. Porn feels like an occasional treat rather than a necessity. Wanting sex is something I choose, rather than a compulsion.
So I think I understand where you might be coming from. If I could have turned down my libido when I was your age, I think I might have considered it.
I don’t know much about chemical castration. Other posters said there may be undesirable long-term side effects. You should discuss those with your family, since they might know about issues that run in your family. But there will be drama.