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It’s not an airport. You don’t need to announce your departure.

I know.

I did it because I wanted to share my point of view, like you have done here. Both of which are admittedly pointless and time wasting endeavors.

Also, I’ve always been a bit skeptical when someone decides to leave a community because they don’t like a post and/or poster. As if they represent the totality of the sub.

It is not about the post or poster, it is about the lack of action from mods in regards to the post or poster. Which is a constant problem in this community that I have noticed, and a good reason to leave it.

I find it funny that you care so much, so thank you for that.

I have had nothing but issues attempting to use AI to help with code. The amount of times it has given me something clearly incorrect, and I am not very experienced to be able to identify “wrong code” so easily, is way to high.

I shared my view and left the community. Was something about my comment unclear?

Thanks for providing a great reason to leave this community.

The OP has been hostile in the comments, and in their OP, violating Rule 1, and Rule 5.

Do better.

I still find music the old school way, either through people I know recommending it or hearing it randomly in my travels.

I say this with the express purpose to “Knock some sense into you”, and in no way intend this to be offensive to you:

You are not ready for a relationship. That is clear from your behavior, and emotional state. You need help if you have reached this point in life, and have no understanding that you aren’t the center of the universe. This is clear because you “allow” yourself to disconnect from them when you need time, and lose it when they have time with others.

This is an incredibly toxic way of being, and you should not “work on yourself” in the course of a relationship knowing how unstable your emotions are, and how immature your thinking process’ are.

All of that to say:

• Yes, you should prioritize being alone right now. Not isolated, but single. Have friends, don’t pursue romantic relationships.

• Find hobbies you enjoy and get good at them. Read books. Make yourself a person who you like to be around.

• Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling. This is important. Ask for help dealing with these emotions and thoughts. If no one in your life can do it, seek a counselor. They can help you gain the skills needed to deal with your thoughts and emotions.

When you are done working on yourself, and you are able to be comfortable being alone, then you can start thinking about romantic relationships.

Right now this situation is not good for you or her, and it is best to hit the brakes and get yourself together first.

I don’t honestly believe it is possible to ever truly “know yourself”, so I would say all traits are unknowable.

The reason I say this is because one doesn’t ever know how they will react in any given situation until it happens. One can train, one can prepare, but until they are in an exact situation with exact circumstances one cannot declare with certainty what they will do.

I do not believe in free will as well, so that is another point against “knowing yourself” for me as all “you” are is an observer to the experiences that aren’t controllable in the first place.

That is not to say that one cannot predict with some accuracy how they will behave, but with so many unknown factors involved with simply existing (like the fact that we forget things that happened and remember things that didn’t; Can be impacted by unknown emotional states; etc), I do not believe anyone can be certain of themselves even with detailed notes and 3rd party help.

Nuclear weapons are the single biggest mistake humanity has ever made next to the Industrial revolution.

We still fight horribly bloody wars even with the threat of nuclear annihilation. It is obvious that nuclear weapons do nothing but make everything worse, and the materials used to create them would be better used for energy generation.

If we were smart we would decommission every weapon on the planet and ensure no group or person can make another one, and put the materials to a better use.

That sounds like a pain for growing conditions.

I use planters because I live in an apartment, but my mother in law uses those little kids pools full of soil to get around not having good soil to grow in. The pools seem to work really well, and she even customized how each soil can drain for different crops and flowers by cutting drain holes. I think she is also trying to grow rice in one of them that is more flooded. haha

I was curious and looked it up, English Lavender doesn’t really like to grow in Florida either because of the heat and humidity. But Spanish, French, Goodwin Creek grey and Phenominal lavender all grow well there. Which is now a fact I know. haha

Citronella is a pretty good alternative! I used to use the candles specifically for mosquitoes. The only problem I had with it is it also keeps other things away I don’t want to avoid like bees and such.

The best way I know to keep unwanted bugs like mosquitoes away without zappers and chemicals is planting lavender. They hate it and will avoid it, while also helping local Bee populations because bees love it. It also keeps wasps and hornets away, as they hate it too.

Honesty is the most important factor in any relationship.

I can give you the first one!

The book opens up with “Why does 1 + 1 = 2?”, and goes on to explain an answer to the question, including ways where “1 + 1 != 2” and why.

Last Book: Is Math Real? - Eugenia Chang

Reading: The Greeks, A Global history - Roderick Beaton

I would recommend both if either subject interests you.

“Is Math Real?” is a really fun book, and gives the brain a lot to chew on. It asks the “stupid questions” of math and explains why they aren’t so stupid.

“The Greeks” is incredibly well written and researched, and goes into many details that aren’t well known about Greek history. This is a subject that has always interested me because of my heritage, and I have learned a lot.

Free will doesn’t exist, doesn’t mean you don’t. Do something fun with your time. I would recommend creative writing.

I judge people for many things, like all people do.

They say only God can judge me, and she seems to be okay with those people doing those things, so who am I to judge?

A people, that’s who.

If one is depressed, truly depressed and not just sad about real life events, one should see a Therapist. It is not weird, it is literally the way to seek treatment for Depression and other mood disorders.

Exercise has been demonstrated to elevate mood, but as far as I know, not a substitute for medication when dealing with mood disorders. If it worked, myself and many others wouldn’t be on meds.

Stop trying to put yourself “around more Women” and make yourself a person Women want to be around instead.

The best thing you can do is get a hobby, get involved in that hobbies local community, and meet people with similar interests. Romantic interests will eventually follow.

Apologies for the misunderstanding. I did not realize that I was notified only because you @ me, not responded to me, so I responded as though it was directed at me.

Don’t take too much of an issue with it. I misunderstood the situation, and dealt with it as such. No hate on new accounts generally, but being here for a year has me seeing new accounts as a big red flag.

Again, apologies for the misunderstanding!

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Because I am a dumb dumb and apparently cannot Lemmy, ignore this comment. Leaving it up to show how silly I can be.

I feel quite silly explaining this, because it seems like you probably don’t want a real answer, but “they” is used when referring to a general group of people.

The singular use of “they/them” has existed since the 14th century, and is not simply "a general group of people’ by definition in modern English.

@Arkouda@lemmy.ca was answering in a way that could be applied to anyone, including OP’s son.

I find the advice to be universal, so what is the problem with it being applied to anyone?

Why be exclusive when you can be inclusive?

Why do you believe neutral language meant to include every one is exclusionary?

Why try to turn a wholesome comment into a gender-war?

The only people I see making this a “gender war” are you, the two month old account, and the 12 day old account who also responded after being triggered by neutral language. I am open to a good faith discussion about this, but you will need to demonstrate your good faith in the next reply if you want that.

Otherwise, take care.