4 person household now.

Gross around 200k if kids jobs included, net pay into bank though is about 7k a month and bills 5k a month (mortgage & related, electric, internet, water and trash, the fixed expenses basically) so I’d say we do fine, and have good jobs, but not loaded.

I would play Nick Cave’s song “into my arms” for The Kinks because I think they would enjoy it.

God, no. High school was awful. Adult life has not been. People have been largely reasonable in my experience, once out of school. I do think some people are more gossipy, sure, but not in a mean way. Some more loud, outgoing, dramatic, others more quiet, sometimes that causes friction but all seem within specs for normal adult behavior, nobody being mean to others (well, except once - there was a lady who went to HR to complain about how someone else dressed, but it’s the exception that proves the rule) Can’t say I’ve encountered bullies at work at all.

And I am not in my 20s or 30s or 40s.

But you enjoy it? I ran for years, got better at it, never particularly fast, but never enjoyed it at all. Best I can say is that I always felt better on a day I ran, but never when I was actually running, that always felt dreadful.

Singing & drawing. I do also try to do things I am not naturally good at on purpose, because I am not good at them, though I wouldn’t say I enjoy those things. Ended up enjoying gardening that way, cooking, dancing, and am good at those now, and enjoy them. Spanish, any language except English I suck but keep trying.

Omnivore.

Bread cools overnight on the counter after cooking then wrapped and stays on the counter.

Butter in a closed container, for however long until it’s all used.

Pizza overnight if it doesn’t have meat

Cut onion, if I cut some for breakfast I will just turn it cut side down on the cutting board if I’m gonna use the rest soon, like at supper same day.

If beans are left out too long I do the “hard boil for 5 minutes”.

I do make fermented beverages and pickles, those ferment at room temp for days to weeks.

Yes normal omnivore diet, not much junk food but yes rice and sourdough bread as carbs, lots of beans, meat at least a couple times a week, vegetables and fruit. Coffee. Alcohol about once a week.

I tried caffeine, electrolytes, my body just wasn’t having it. Would wake up with a migraine if I skipped both lunch & supper. I can do 24 hours easier, very late lunch, skip supper, next day start with supper, but the 36 hours or more did something that shorter fasts don’t (besides the headaches) my LDL cholesterol dropped sharply.

This was an experiment for me because most of the reports I read on fasting benefits related to weight loss, there wasn’t a lot on normal weight people fasting and maintaining weight, so I did that to see if it really did anything, and it did.

Oh, I thought OP meant just hanging out, like a dinner party or on the back porch or watching a movie at our house or their house.

I do see people (in real life) who i like, and am not lonely or anything.

Just not much sitting around with friends at my house or their house anymore.

That punctuation. “Including romantic partners, except children.” WTF?

I am much closer to my husband and kids than to the dogs and cats but feel more responsibility towards the pets, the kids I am growing into adults who take care of themselves, the dogs and cats we care for until they die.

By choice? 36 hours weekly for a year. It did improve my health without dropping my weight but unfortunately was also a guaranteed migraine each time.

By need? Couple of days when we were poor. But way more usually there was at least something to eat each day.

Oh yes, I go to yoga, see people and talk to them. Sometimes games with my (grown) kids, I cook and bake and garden, Pokemon go raid hour I see the same people a lot, and at work of course. I like the neighbors too. Just nobody seems to invite anyone 'round.

57, almost never, it’s mostly family and work. We do have parties about 2-3 times a year that include whoever wants to come, that gets some friends. But really almost never, family got so big that it’s a big network of people and that’s most of our entertaining.

I live in a subtropical climate and it seems like most typical garden plants are not really good for our weather, it’s too hot for some and too wet for many who like hot.

Our winners are:

Trees- starfruit, longan, mango, papaya all do well.

Garden -

summer, wet season - Okra mostly. Hong Tsoi, Eggplant (little ones) Watermelon (little ones) sweet potato (Stokes Purple), tomatoes, basil.

winter, dry season- Collards, peppers, broccoli (Green Magic) cauliflower, arugula, fennel, lettuce, radishes. Cilantro, or dill. A lot of the typical northern summer plants can be started in December or January to grow in the “spring” that runs from January to April ish.

In between - peppers, fennel, mustard greens, eggplant, pumpkin type squash (but bugs always eat it) tomatoes.

I was way more alienated as a child, than as an adult. For one thing, precocity doesn’t last, once you are a grownup there are more people with at least a baseline of intelligence, it’s easier to talk to adults.

But also the world has changed, and doesn’t require as much conformity. So there is a wider window of “normal”. Do I fit inside that window? Maybe not, but since it’s bigger I am closer to it.

I can certainly understand you don’t want to rehab a guy who was raised with strong sex roles! I do think it’s something that eases with time, in general. I’m old so guys my age are worse about that but they haven’t ever veered into thinking it’s unattractive for me to know my way around the stuff they thought was theirs, what I HAVE found more resistant is that they stay unskilled at stuff they think woman’s work. So egg guy surprises me a lot more than chainsaw guy.

We do have division of labor but it’s not based on gender but ability: I do the cooking in my house, husband cleans up after. He mows, I do all the stuff that beautifies and grow the food plants, I do the banking and financial planning, he does the cars and plans any travel, he takes more of the pet care, but not the litter boxes (he does WAY more dog poop pickup than me), I do most appliance maintenance, he does AC maintenance. We just figure it out so we are each doing what we are good at. What I notice is he defers all creative stuff to me, doesn’t have the eye for how things should look or sound or taste, and doesn’t try to develop it at all, just thinks it’s my world. Would let me buy his clothes if I wanted to, just seems to think that’s something women are better at, so he ought not be good at it!

I answered above, but I do read a lot faster than I talk, and faster than I can listen for sure. Will read transcripts instead of watching videos because it’s faster, listening is too slow and speeding up the video does not work the same way for me at all.

I would never say that to anyone, what the fuck? I do read very fast (considerably faster than I can speak or listen) so don’t have any expectations about someone else’s speed, no idea what is normal or average.

Take your time and enjoy what you are reading! Why are they in a hurry?

I like algebra, it’s logical and understandable for me. But calculus just falls out of my head the minute I take my eyes off of it.

I am an accountant, I love numbers and number trivia, little puzzles.

But math math, like beyond algebra? Not as much.

And early math, like arithmetic, was poisoned by bad teachers and bad teaching methods. I didn’t like it before algebra, it was boring.

I suck at it, lucky to solve it at any speed - my penultimate kid is fast though, like you under a minute. Just like to have some analog toys in my bag.

Well sometimes nothing if I am with my husband, that is so awesome. But if it’s just me - keys and phone are my usual gear, phone can pay for stuff. Bike lock if I am on the bike; purse with all my purse stuff if I’m driving the car.

Stuff in my purse is wallet with ID and cards, vitamins and medicines, hair stuff and lip balm, sunscreen, a Rubik’s Cube, a crow whistle and dice, glasses cleaner and sometimes sunglasses.