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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I thought marriage benefited men? Maybe guys who like to get around don’t want to be married, but they could marry a swinger, and still do that. Maybe they are loaded and want to keep it all?

    But for two regular people in a heterosexual marriage, in general, men benefit more from the arrangement. Meaning both people do benefit - economy of scale, split work, but generally speaking men gain more than women, the split isn’t even in most cases.

    My real guess is that it’s nostalgia for a situation they would not have even if they had not married. They misremember their youth.

    If they just mean legal marriage and taxes they have a point. That can be cheaper if you stay unmarried, it depends. We pay more married than we did unmarried because we each were single parents, and our earnings are close to the same amount.




  • Mayo and dill pickle relish (or chopped dill pickles and pickled jalapenos) is the best tartar sauce IMO.

    Chipotle salsa - dump a can of chipotles en adobo into the food processor, press start, turn it off when they are smooth.

    Black bean sauce. Dump a can of black beans in a pot with some of the chipotle salsa, heat them together, hit with immersion blender and then whisk in some sour cream.

    If you have an abundance of basil (if you have a plant, you will have an abundance) pesto is easy.

    Slightly more work but so easy and so good, sheet pan salsa, put tomatillos and fresh hot peppers on a sheet pan and broil them until soft and a little blackened, slide the whole mess into the food processor, season with salt, a little olive oil and vinegar and either cumin seeds or cilantro (you don’t need both), pulse until chopped up and combined.

    I find vegan gravy so good for the amount of work too. Make a dark roux of oil and flour, mix soy sauce into water until it looks like diet coke for the broth, add it slowly into the hot roux while whisking, season with pepper, salt if needed, rosemary is good as are mushrooms, miso, but it’s plenty good on its own.




  • Streaming. Mostly YouTube music, some Bandcamp, all legal. Headphones at work, speakers at home. Favorites are many, old and new music, last couple of years it’s been Fontaines DC I think, they are just so good, sitting at the intersection of rock & punk & melodic with such awesomely poetic lyrics and the underlying thread of despair of all Irish music.



  • Do you want fancy beans? Rancho Gordo online has fancy beans. They are, as they say, the leguminati.

    For canned I use the ones from whole foods or go to specific ethnic markets. Chinese chefs use some crazy preparations I don’t usually like - fermented black beans ok in small amounts, but no no to red bean ice cream or any sweet preparation. And big no to Japanese natto, what are they even thinking?

    But middle eastern markets have good canned favas, and spanish and italian markets here have lots of brands that aren’t Goya.



  • Have you tried roasted chickpeas (garbanzos)? Also there is a chickpea flour that is used in Indian food. Not that this would be enough to get you the 2 cups or anything, but they are some much different tasting/feeling preparations that you might like ok or enjoy. Also the pumpkin soup I posted - the puree hides in that soup, nobody thinks it’s beans, the pumpkin is so strong of flavor the beans just cut that so it’s good not ungodly sweet.

    I can imagine not liking beans, they do have a specific, really lovely to me, smooth and thick texture. The flavor I can’t really imagine not liking all of them, they are pretty different from each other.

    Plenty of other foods have fiber just not as efficient as beans, you would have to eat a lot more to hit that health target.


  • I like white rice, and make bread with 65% white flour. But foods with fiber are delicious.

    Beans, so good so many ways.

    Fruits - raspberries, dates, apples, peaches, pears, mango, pineapple.

    Greens- cooked collards or mustard greens are so tasty, salads can be so good tasting.

    Onions and garlic make a good start to many meals and have a specific sort of fiber that is very good for you.

    I like oatmeal.

    But again - the total fiber needed for health is in two cups of beans. Just throw them in anything. Put them on your white rice, in your white flour tortillas. Garbanzos into sausage soups. Cannelini into pasta dishes. Hummus and falafel with your lamb and white flour pitas.




  • Refried pinto beans we eat with breakfasts or in burritos.

    Black beans from cans, reheated with some cumin, salt, pepper, vinegar or jalapeno brine. My family (except for me) prefers black beans above all others.

    Bonus easy recipe - get a can of cannelini beans and a can of pureed butternut squash or pumpkin. Heat these together with some olive oil, curry or berbere, salt. When they are hot, hit it with an immersion blender until it’s a puree and adjust the consistency to your preference with chicken broth, veg broth, or just water is ok.
    Serve with lime slices, pepitas, queso fresco if you have it or a splash of cream or sour cream can also be good.


  • Beans. I know on Lemmy beans are memes, but beans are how to get enough fiber each day. 2 cups of cooked beans has the total fiber you need for a day, and it’s hard to get there without beans.

    It takes about 3 -5 cups of cooked veggies to get the fiber that is in one cup of beans. So 1 cup of cooked beans and some greens with supper, a big salad for lunch and oatmeal with raspberries and yogurt for breakfast would get you there. And should leave room calorie wise for some meat and bread or rice or pasta.

    My kids make fun of me for making beans for so many meals but delicious, cheap, healthy, they are an ideal food.




  • That’s our cats. They can get through the door without you even seeing them do it. The dogs just sit and look at the open door unless we tell them to go through.

    Once my cat ran out the door and back in, with a lizard in her mouth, before I could close it or yell for her. Most efficient hunt I have ever witnessed.