cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/17202407

Sen. Roger Marshall (R-KS) introduced a bill this week to legally erase transgender people, entitled the “Defining Male and Female Act of 2024.” He claimed that the bill will stop what he called the Biden administration’s attempt to “replace biological sex with dangerous radical gender ideology.”

The bill is a long list of terms and definitions, where words like “father” and “girl” are defined with the words “male” and “female.” Those two words are then defined as “an individual who naturally has, had, will have, or would have, but for a congenital anomaly or intentional or unintentional disruption, the reproductive system that at some point produces, transports and utilizes [sperm or eggs for male or female, respectively] for fertilization.”

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      Making everything sexual for children while not even acknowledging the sickness of it.

      Same shit said about gay people.

      Being gay isn’t sexual. Being straight isn’t sexual. Being trans isn’t sexual. Someone saying they are a girl is not sexual. Someone saying they are a boy is not sexual.

      You see how none of this relates to sex?

      The real answer is that a lot of people don’t really understand being trans. A lot of people used to the same way about gay and lesbian people. Conservatives tried to rally hard against gay and lesbian people, but that proved unpopular. Trans people don’t have that same protection. So, they’ll go after it until people finally get it.

      Conservatives only have identity politics.

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        I’m referring to nudity and expressing sexuality in front of children. Drag and children. Parades of expression with children involved. Seeing essentially naked men and women and children being encouraged to interact in it.

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          Good lord, nudity isn’t even a real issue. I regularly swim laps at my local public pool, and the changing room and showers regularly see a mix of children and adults. I don’t see any kids getting their innocence destroyed in the locker room or showers, and we’re all naked in there.

          People only care when it’s trans people wearing clothes. They don’t really care about nudity, they’re trying to create a moral panic about queer people by suggesting that they are a threat to children.

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            You really think I’m talking about locker rooms? And do I need to point out that these have been male/female seperated?

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              Little kids are regularly brought into opposite gender restrooms because they only have one parent with them, and can’t be left alone. Is that “sexualizing” a kid or does mommy or daddy just have to pee?

              Same with trans people. Why are you republicans so fucking obsessed with genitals? It’s weird.

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                Bathrooms aren’t locker rooms, but again thats not what I’m even referring to. I’ve taken my daughter into men’s bathroom stalls. I could care less about your genitals. I do care about public displays of stripping, nudity explicitly revolved around sexuality, aimed with children being either the intended audience, or part of the audience. Things I’ve posted here already got removed but I’m pretty sure it’s not too hard to find examples of children watching drag strip shows.

                I vote blue down the line. Get off the internet and realize that it’s not Republicans alone that have issues with pedophilia and the lines being crossed around them.

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          Nudity is also not inherently sexual. You can be naked for reasons outside of having sex, such as cleaning yourself, using the bathroom, changing outfits, sunbathing, relaxing, etc. None of those are inherently sexual.

          Wearing drag is not sexual either. It’s been a thing for centuries, and that’s just the easily identifiable stuff.

          Wearing kink gear is not inherently sexual, though I can understand that you don’t recognize that because it has connotations. But you can wear it without it being a sexual act.

          “Expressing” sexuality is purposefully vague. Is kissing expressing sexuality? Is holding hands? Children do those. That would be an expression of your sexual orientation. You aren’t really making any sense.

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                That’s NSFW content? But I thought it’s just innocent expression, safe enough for kids.

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                  Anything that would make your boss go “WTF ARE YOU LOOKING AT??” is NSFW content. You know this. Stop with the dishonest engagement or you’ll grab a ban.

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                    I’m not trying to have a dishonest engagement. You’re right. There’s a lot of NSFW that isn’t sexual in nature.

                    The engagement I was trying to have is that kids are being involved with displays of sexuality. Seeing how it’s not even a conversation to be had here is telling of the community I’m engaging with.

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        I’ll agree someone saying they are are a girl/boy or trans isn’t sexual. Gender isn’t inherently sexual. Someone being gay/straight feels like it’s absolutely sexual. Implied with the"sexual" in homo or heterosexual. You could have nonsexual gay/straight thoughts/feelings I guess, but those are just feelings. Like, ANYONE is allowed to have them regardless of orientation, and honestly sounds like it’s bordering on asexual. Do you have a learning example for that line of thought? Before any angry blowback: I’m not trying to be a dick about this. As far as my understanding of this goes, I don’t follow that comment.

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      If that were a valid explanation then why is the bill banning any adult recognition of trans adults?

      There’s a different conversation on whether to allow gender affirming therapy for minors.

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        Sure. Different conversation I agree. I wasn’t commenting to the original post. Just that the idea that transgenderism and the issues surrounding it arent hard discussions with people outside of the community here is irrational.

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      Ah yes not bigotry just made up bs points that are meant to do nothing but stop trans people from being accepted.

      A lot of these points had analogues in the past with other minority rights movements, but why look to the past and see how those points were non-issues when we can instead get mad about the transgenders CoNfUsInG OuR ChIlDrEn.

      And

      Suicide causes for transgender teens is often reported as bullying or bigotry, but not often reported on the lack of support for dysphoria and other mental health conditions.

      This just means we need to let kids be who they are and support them in their transition, that is the only logical conclusion of that issue.

      People matter.

      Unless they’re t****n freaks, then they can get outed to their abusive parents and sent to conversion camps for all I care :^)

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        Are you referring to yourself? No one who loves their children wants to send them to conversion camp. There are definitely discussions to have regarding the proper medical treatments and psychological care and how the involvement of the state and legislature hurts more than helps. But I don’t want the state being involved in how we raise our children. I don’t want to change children or parents sending their kids to camp. But you can’t pretend that parents and our communities aren’t involved in the way a child is raised, how they grow mentally and encouraging strengths, and guiding them in a healthy way. Let kids be who they are and make sure they get the support they need.

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          You say that and yet when a child decides to confide in their teacher for their own safety, instead of their parents, you want them to be forced to out the children.

          And the entire “poor confused children” rhetoric doesn’t do anything but hurt us. We are not confused, we are devastated by being forced to go through the wrong puberty.

          It really doesn’t sound like you’re a bigot but please examine the sort of rhetoric you take in and spread.

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            Look, I just got my comment removed for unmarked NSFW content. It was a picture of drag expression with a child involved. My problem is that. I don’t want any child to be devastated but just letting children be involved in unsafe for work expression for the sake of letting them have all the freedom is devastating in my eyes. And to hide behind some of the comments here that it’s not sexual in nature I cannot believe it does not have a poor effect on the growing identity in children. This is where my “poor confused children” rhetoric comes from.

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              I don’t want any child to be devastated but just letting children be involved in unsafe for work expression for the sake of letting them have all the freedom is devastating in my eyes.

              The day is March 14th 2018, walking through the street I see a child selling newspaper yelling “Breaking news! Western civilisation officially over!” Without hesitation, I pick up the newspapers from the kid, the front page reads.

              CHILD SEES MAN IN SKIMPY OUTFIT, WESTERN CIVILIZATION FALLS IMMEDIATELY

              An unnamed minor has perceived a man dressed in a skimp outfit as part of a drag performance. Police are saying the child was instantly annihilated before it could even mutter “Mommy why this man has girls dress on?” The body of the child could not be recovered from the scene.

              This event also instantly destroyed Western Civilization™ and all major first world governments are currently destroyed or in crisis.

              Shedding but a single tear I fall to my knees and exclaim “IF ONLY THEY BROUGHT THE CHILD TO A PLACE WHERE NORMAL PEOPLE ARE DRESSED SEXUALLY LIKE HOOTERS, NOOOOOOOOO!”

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                Lol you’re funny. But I’ve never been to hooters, nor would think to take my kids there, if the emphasis of the restaurant is sexualizing women. But why do you bring that up? Are they walking around in thongs and nipple pasties at hooters?

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                  1. Most drag shows don’t have that sort of content.

                  2. I wouldn’t bring a child to a drag show that does but honestly I don’t care that much, children have seen worse shit.

                  3. No one is arguing every child should have to be brought to a drag show where people are in thongs.

                  4. This is a non-issue and happens to like a dozen people per year worldwide, meanwhile transphobia and lack of access to adequate healthcare and lack of spaces they’re allowed to express themselves hurts all trans people everywhere.

                  5. What about all the people feeding their children to hungry bears! I yell while posting a link to an article talking about how someone fed their child to a bear once.

                  I don’t know how long I have to keep going.

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      “Confusing children during pivotal construction of their identity.”

      Discovering and accepting your identity very much is what transitioning is. According to general society being born as a specific sex implies that identity. In everything from hobbies, clothing, friends. But what if you realise your identity does not align with what your sex implies? Even if it’s something small like a 15-year old boy who likes knitting. That aspect of their identity goes against the implied or expected identity that is based on their physical sex. Is the boy confused because he likes knitting or because what he’s been told what his identity should be doesn’t mesh with who he is?

      “Suicide causes for transgender teens is often reported as bullying or bigotry, but not often reported on the lack of support for dysphoria and other mental health conditions.”

      How are transgender teens supposed to get support for dysphoria if they are instead isolated? In my experience dysphoria isn’t something you just talk to a therapist about and then it’s cured. It’s the horrible visceral feeling I got whenever I was forced to wear a dress shirt. What fixed that? Not wearing a dress shirt. The freedom to wear the clothes that make me comfortable.

      “A lack of stability in life often leads to chaotic life altering decisions, sometimes self harm and death.”

      My life wasn’t more stable before I knew what transgender meant and realised I didn’t identify as a man when I was 19. It was filled with depression, self-isolation, and suicidal ideation. A slow but steady spiral into nothingness. It’s not like dysphoria only exists if we know it exists. Realising I was trans was certainly chaotic. But the reason it was so chaotic was that the identity that had been built up for me was shattered. So now I had to find and rebuild my identity from scratch. What most people spend their time doing from 5-16 I had to do over because I didn’t fit into the identity I was told to build.

      I dealt with self-harm. Still struggle with it sometimes. I learned as a kid to bottle up my feelings. Be it regular sadness or stress, or dysphoria. So I began to use self-harm as a way to escape and cope with those feelings. When I could no longer bottle them up. Just like how people drink to drown their sorrows or do drugs to escape reality. I believe I never would have begun to self-harm if I had been able to build the identity I wanted from the start. If I was allowed to cry, or to express myself in ways that help me cope naturally.

      Why is the inclusion of people - or teenagers in this case - that don’t fit the pre-existing mould and expectations such a problem? The idea that not everyone automatically fits into pre-conceived notions of what a boy and a girl is, or likes, or does, or acts. Is that such a threat to school or society in general?

      Yes we need more help for people with gender dysphoria. But that help isn’t isolation from society. That help isn’t stopping people from trying to figure out who they really are.