32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they’ve gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you’re an average looking man?
This may sound like an odd question, but why are you dating? What are you seeking out that you don’t have now?
I guess what I’m trying to say is my philosophy is to not go out of the way to find someone directly, but rather build one’s own self confidence and communal hobbies that naturally draws you to people, friends or love interests alike.
Ironically I ended up meeting my soul mate within a year of committing to being content with being single. That altered my mindset and I guess made me more attractive and focused on self-improvement.
Because I never had a partner and it’s frustrating
I’ve been there. Always been awkward, always struggled with it, always had complex emotions about it. I can confirm though what the previous person said: building yourself up as someone with your own rich world that people would be interested in, that’s the healthiest way. You should try as much as possible to do this, I know it’s hard. I know you just feel like it’s never your turn. But you have to try. I’ve never met anyone on dating apps but that’s also because I used to go out a lot for specifically this reason. But pubs and clubs aren’t exactly healthy, it lead more to wasted years, wasted money, and meaningless hookups that left me just as miserable… It was eventually when I took up traveling with organized groups (where I could socialize with like-minded strangers around a healthy topic that we had in common) that I met my current partner.
Nice. I hear ya there