For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

  • mika_mika@lemmy.world
    18·
    5 hours ago

    You think men- the demographic that are already so insecure about the size of their dick they will jump through hoops to defend or lie about their size- would give you an honest answer on this?

    I was circumcised and don’t remember it in the slightest. The pain I went through as an infant has had no negative effects on my life. I have also regrown some of my foreskin slightly. Most partners don’t even know I have a foreskin.

    I definitely wouldn’t mind getting that excess removed except for the pain and recovery as an adult and I’m guessing most men who have a foreskin would hesitate for the same reasons. It’s not exactly as elective a cosmetic surgery as an adult as people would make it seem.

    But this question is like going into a group of religious folk and asking what god they support- theirs or another- No shit it’s going to be their own. Men are obsessed with their own dick.

    • Dasus@lemmy.world
      1·
      54 minutes ago

      “The excess”

      Yeah no such thing.

      Imagine actually asking women if they prefer to have their clitoral hood intact or not.

      It’s biologically analogous, it’s the prepuce. Without it, your most sensitive part is constantly exposed to air and friction. Imagine what an eye would look like in 15 years if you were to cut someone’s eyelid off. It would dry and lose vision and just be overall horrible. The glans penis is mucosal as well, so there’d be similarities like keratinisation.