• Fubarberry@sopuli.xyz
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    8 days ago

    I didn’t really want kids, but my wife did, so we compromised and had 6.

    Jokes aside I found it super fulfilling, I had struggled a lot with depression and feeling like everything was pointless, but raising kids gives me a purpose and makes mudane stuff like work feel meaningful. I definitely get what the comic is talking about, it’s rough a lot of the time, but it was what I unexpectedly needed in my life.

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        8 days ago

        Yep, 6. After you have several it’s kinda like “how much harder could it be to have another?”

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          We had the same thought with our cats and ended up with five. Then we realized that if you’re unlucky it can get really unsustainable really quickly. For example if you have one cat and it develops 3 problems you have 3 problems to deal with. Five cats and each develop 3 problems…yeah you now have 15 problems to keep up with (vet bills, messed to clean up, fights to break up etc etc.).

          I can’t imagine juggling six kids. Props to you all for being able to keep up with that.

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            7 days ago

            Yeah there’s always a risk of getting a really hard to handle kid/cat. Some kids are just at easy, but others aren’t. There’s also a risk of suddenly have twins or triplets and ending up extra overwhelmed.

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      but raising kids gives me a purpose

      Ugh, this makes me shudder. It just sounds like “I’ve eagerly embraced my role as part of a procreation machine”.

      I guess it’s necessary that some people become parents, in order to keep humanity going. And, it’s better if those people are doing it willingly rather than reluctantly. But, it just sounds like evolution reached into your brain and turned off some critical faculties in order to make you a more effective procreator.