Long story short. Friend with history is body and mental issues (mainly depression). I moved to a different country, so we talked less. For the past two year things went very one sided. I would text her and get reply much later. Never able to meet when I was in town.
Then, nothing. No answers at all. Text or calls. Friends tell me similar story. I keep texting sporadically, sometimes calling. After months I get a response. She’s crying and saying shes sorry for not replying, that’s she’s not well in general and needs time. Problems with work, relationships, family and some tragedies all in short time.
That was months ago. Part of me thinks to give space, but another is worried because she’s avoiding our common friends too. The only way to reach to her or even know how she is would be through her family, which is very intrusive.
Any advice?
Edit: fixed “In moved to a different country” to “I moved to a different country” as somebody misunderstood due to the typo
Send them a text and tell them you’re thinking about them. If they ask for help and you can help them then by all means help them.
This advice is from a self isolating man that needs help.
Do you need any kind of help a stranger from the internet can provide?
Yeah I need a job with my very specific skill set or entry level that isn’t sales that is also remote.
Well, unfortunately I can’t be of assist with that. I barely manage to keep my job.
This is the correct answer.
It’s the only answer. Worst case she ignores you. Best case, you save her life.
Just don’t think you need to do more than that. You can’t help people who don’t want help.