• falseWhite@lemmy.world
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    Normalize complimenting men. The current ratio is probably 10 to 1. Maybe they would be less miserable and angry then.

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      I told a guy at Universal Studios that I thought he was cute and he just beamed. Made him so happy. I also like to compliment when guys have nice beards; works every time. Btw I’m a guy.

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      The current ratio is probably 10 to 1

      In terms of compliments you give, what’s the ratio? Be part of the solution.

      I compliment my friends all the time. It’s an easy way to support the people you care about.

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      Agreed but the in-between where men think all women wanna bang them is gonna be rough

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        I’ve been complemented before in passing by someone and not felt the overwhelming urge to immediately engage in a relationship with them. Surely, context and place matters, and it can get confusing sometimes… But I think a “sorry, I was just appreciating ____” occasionally might be worth the net gain.

        … And you can phrase something in a way that isn’t misinterpreted. Its situational. I’ve certainly told women a color suits them or complemented a look, hairstyle, what have you… Making certain to filter it in a way that is as complimentary as it can be without toeing that line. Its not that hard and frankly it’s worth seeing someone light up a bit when they get some positive reinforcement.

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      If I could stop being a socially anxious bitch I would, but I debate in my head for 5 mins and by then the guy has already walked away 😅

      Same things with girls honestly, I just struggle. But I feel like I’ve gotten better in college about saying compliments to people.

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          Never will understand why someone saying something positive about y must immediately mean x is excluded and should be maligned. Its a disgusting tactic typically taken by cults and ner-do-wells who benifit from the rift being widened.

          Edit: it’s uplifting to see that people are tolerating that behavior less. I think it’s high time we started building better bonds with people in our communities rather than letting some hatefarm drive more rifts into it.

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        Let’s normalize not driving rifts into conversations that otherwise didn’t have them… And maybe not turn every conversation into a virtue signaling shitshow.

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        Women get too many compliments, men get too few. That’s why I steal compliments from women and give them to men. Nice tits, by the way.