Because the married men you are talking to are either trash, married to trash, or are not compatible with the person they married or too early into their marriage to tell.
I can’t imagine marrying someone that I didn’t consider a best friend. I adore my wife, and my life is infinitely better with and because of her. Our first couple years were rough, but we’ve both worked to improve. We have each other’s backs, support each other through thick and thin, laugh with each other, and just generally compliment each other’s weaknesses with individual strengths.
I detest wife hating boomer humor because it has never once resonated with me. If you don’t love them and don’t love being with them, why marry or stay married, go be happy elsewhere with someone else.
Preach brother. I remember the first time going to drinks with coworkers when I was young and started dating my eventual wife. Every one of them wife bashed, had to get home to the old ball and chain. Constantly just annoyed with their wives. They would look to me and I’d have to lie about my gf because I didn’t have anything like that.
15 years later and every single one of those guys are divorced. Various factors but I always remember those evenings getting beers. Meanwhile I’m happily married.
You start talking or acting that way and soon the jokes become actual resentment, and once it’s resentment it’s a very hard path back. Over communicate and appreciate your spouse, they should be your best friend, not the person you complain about in a bar. Your boss should provide enough material for that role.
Because the married men you are talking to are either trash, married to trash, or are not compatible with the person they married or too early into their marriage to tell.
I can’t imagine marrying someone that I didn’t consider a best friend. I adore my wife, and my life is infinitely better with and because of her. Our first couple years were rough, but we’ve both worked to improve. We have each other’s backs, support each other through thick and thin, laugh with each other, and just generally compliment each other’s weaknesses with individual strengths.
I detest wife hating boomer humor because it has never once resonated with me. If you don’t love them and don’t love being with them, why marry or stay married, go be happy elsewhere with someone else.
Preach brother. I remember the first time going to drinks with coworkers when I was young and started dating my eventual wife. Every one of them wife bashed, had to get home to the old ball and chain. Constantly just annoyed with their wives. They would look to me and I’d have to lie about my gf because I didn’t have anything like that.
15 years later and every single one of those guys are divorced. Various factors but I always remember those evenings getting beers. Meanwhile I’m happily married.
You start talking or acting that way and soon the jokes become actual resentment, and once it’s resentment it’s a very hard path back. Over communicate and appreciate your spouse, they should be your best friend, not the person you complain about in a bar. Your boss should provide enough material for that role.