Don’t have so many kids you barely know their names, let alone needs and interests.

Don’t parentify the girls, making them into mini-mothers that care for the others.

Don’t instruct the boys that keeping a clean home, cooking, and hygiene is women’s work and beneath them.

Don’t use physical negative reinforcement (no hitting, no limiting calories).

Don’t teach that reaching out for help is a moral failing.

Don’t indoctrinate them into a religion.

Don’t instill pride and moral superiority in being “better” and “different” than other families.

Do sit and introspect on how you’re treating your kids. Challenge your preconceptions. My parents could read the above and insist they never did any of them, that they were great parents.