Mine would totally be the opposite of where my life is now. I’d be thrilled to be play games, whereas I barely play one. I’d be watching lots of shows and movies, whereas now I don’t at all. Any idea I have about going to the gym or doing something active, I’d do it, whereas now I am idealistic about it.
Homestead, one income, family, wealth through hard assets. That should be everyone’s goal, but isn’t.
I could go into detail, but the broad strokes are a life where I don’t have to work and live alone, and have active relationships with people who aren’t my immediate family. Also Trumpism is either a distant memory or never happened to begin with.
I’d use the time for creative endeavors.
Being free of the crushing grip of capitalism.
My life is basically perfect right now except for society in general. I pretty much do whatever I want, I’m self employed so I don’t get exploited at work, my wife is my soul mate and my kids are thriving.
10 years ago my life was absolute trash, recently divorced, living in a hella sketchy basement apartment, unemployed and addicted to drugs. Don’t give up, even if you think your life sucks you can still turn it around.
yep. making good choices over time reaps rewards.
society is weird. everyone i meet the past few years is totally utterly miserable, so i’d rather just chill at home or with my few friends who aren’t miserable. misery is a choice people make.
4 hours of work 5 days a week. 5 weeks off per year.
Enough money to not worry about money.
A short run in the morning, short weightlifting after work, yoga in the evening. Two non consecutive rest days with just stretching and walking. To feel good enough to do that so I can keep feeling good enough to do that.
Going out on one weekend night to do something, staying in the other nights.
Pet cats, and maybe one dog.
Traveling somewhere every year.
And having enough money also to get the house in the shape we want.
Basically I want a well funded partial retirement.
The irony is, the more you accept there’s no such thing, the closer you’ll get to it.
My life now but just enough more money to feel secure and also I’d be a girl
It’s the little details that make a difference.
you won’t ever feel secure with more money.
you will adjust and then think ‘oh but just a little bit more would be perfect’
Take control of you life, be the person you want to be.
It’s easier said than done, but if I can do it, anyone can.
I wanted a lot of things for myself when I was younger, and like you, it was purely aspirational, I wasn’t actually doing anything about it and I was incredibly unhappy.
It took a long time, and a lot of introspection but I’m currently the person younger me could only dream of being.
I grew up homeless, but I’ve worked my ass off to buy a house. I grew up lonely thinking nobody would love me, and now I have an incredible wife. I grew up idolizing musicians and now I’m a bad drummer (but I enjoy it).
Make plans. Think about what you want your life to be and make reasonable plans on how you can make it happen.
Your list seems extremely doable, play games, watch movies. I can’t imagine what’s stopping you from that but plan it out of you need to. Maybe Sunday night can be a movie night? Idk whatever works for you.
Join a gym. Like actually pick a gym and sign up. Once you start paying for it, you’d be an idiot to not actually go, so you’ll go.
A part of it is holding yourself accountable. Maybe you don’t feel like going to the gym. Go anyway. Maybe you don’t feel like watching a movie, sometimes you have to force it just so you can look back at yourself and be proud that you tried, that you put in the effort to be the person you want to be.
It’s not easy to live up to your own expectations, but I promise the effort it takes is always worth it.
Of course I don’t know your situation. But reading your post reminded me of a younger me and I just wanted you to know you can do it. You can live your best life and you deserve it
Take control of you life
this is the problem though. i’ve noticed a huge explosion in people refuse to acknowledge this is at all possible. they are ‘victims’ of their emotions now apparently. not to mention ‘society’.
i saw a big thread on askreddit, the number one reply about ‘what do you find burdensome’ was ‘making choices’. I laughed out loud at the absurdity of it all. sooo many people just want to be thoughtless blobs that make zero effort and expect to be rewarded for it and think life is ‘unfair’ that they have get up to go to the bathroom to poop.
One where i have energy and motivation.
Oh and am loved.Any where stress doesn’t affect me negatively.
This doesn’t answer your question, but if you have an idea of what you want, or who you want to be, do those things. I’m closer to living the life I want to live because I asked myself “who do I want to be? And what does that person do?” and then I worked on doing those things. I have a ways to go, but I’m who I want to be.
If your definition of a perfect life is playing multiple video games and watching loads of movies then I’ve good news - you’re on the right timeline.
For me, a perfect life would be a job, any job, that keeps me afloat, a house to live in, even if its just a small apartment, and a few good friends.
Larger family. Regular extended breaks to work on projects important to me. A news cycle that cares more about policy than the tragedy of the hour.
Playing guitar and singing, recording music, hiking thru forests and camping there, swimming in seas, traveling space.
And yes, I am actively working to create a world where we do not have much bigger existential risks.
