[two characters are talking in a bar, the light blue one of the left looks smug, while the dark blue one on the right looks concerned]

[light blue] Women are so shallow, they only want a tall good looking guy with tons of money

[dark blue] What about Brenda? She seems to really care and is always there for you

[light blue] Brenda? She’s fat poor and ugly!

https://thebad.website/comic/shallow

  • Xerxos@lemmy.ml
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    22 hours ago

    I have never heard a guy decline a girl because she is poor.

    Because she is fat and/or ugly? Sure.

    I also don’t think you should date someone you find ugly. While sex is not everything, it’s an important part in most relationships.

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      8 hours ago

      Is poor? No. Fits vaguely into a poor stereotype or cultural corner? All the time.

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      10 hours ago

      I have never heard a guy decline a girl because she is poor.

      I mean, I’ve never heard it said explicitly, and our still-largely-partriarchical society does expect and therefore respect penis-havers to bring home the money. So, it doesn’t matter that much, with how much money the person without the penis starts out with.

      But I do think class differences implicitly still play quite a big role.
      To some degree as part of secondary factors, for example you might look for an educated, physically fit partner, which a poor person cannot afford to take the time for.
      To some degree, you just won’t ever get to know certain poor people, because they might not be able to afford the same hobby as you, or shopping at the expensive store etc…

      But even if you do meet someone and they could tick your preferences, it is easy to dismiss their interest outright as just being about money, if you can tell that they have less of it than you.
      Even in a patriarchical society, you don’t particularly want to be the guy where friends and family snicker that you’re being used…

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      22 hours ago

      Ugly people have sex too, you know.
      In fact, 50% of people have below-average looks. Do you think they all abstain?

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        according to who, you? looks is pretty subjective. people do date on personality and i dare say it, your income too in despite of the looks of a person.

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        18 hours ago

        No, I just think people have different taste and different thresholds when to call someone ugly

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    22 hours ago

    This shit drives me insane. It is completely okay to have preferences, why would you expect anyone to want to date someone they do not find attractive? That’s absurdly unfair.

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      21 hours ago

      Sure, but this is more just pointing out hypocrisy, the complaining is what I think they are getting at. He doesn’t think his standards are unreasonable only that women having the same standards is unreasonable.

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    1 day ago

    Love this modern concept of equality. Instead of everyone becoming a better person, everyone feel free to be your worst self