Soo I’ve been friends with some sex workers, and professionally known some (I worked in sexual health).
They all tell the same story: about 50% of their clients don’t even want sex, or it doesn’t get there, because they just wanted someone to talk to for a few hours, someone to listen to them, treat them like a friend even if it’s transactional. They said a lot of guys end up crying, talking about their broken relationships and problems.
And then the other 50% want to get freaky as hell, so it’s a dichotomy.
Intimacy and commercial transaction are mutually exclusive.
A hugker
a friend of mine actually tried to pull that trick with commercial hugs. she brought him her gym buddies - some extra big guys and developed a price list with several options. she made around 1k on pure shits and giggles vibes out of that. it was right before the pandemic. those were the days…
What? “Extra big guys” can make serious money in the right business…
probably
Patient zero…was unexpected
Damn, sad, especially around the holidays.
I’m friends with sex workers who give comfort just like this. Some of them don’t even have sex on their menus, just physical touch, companionship, and listening. They say it’s exhausting, perhaps even moreso than sex, but the pay is good. There’s boundary issues to watch out for.
Are they still called sex workers, then? I mean, your comment is kind of telling, as it is a bit confusing.
Yes. “Sex workers” is the terminology in English. Some people who offer no sex and get registered by the state are professional cuddlers though.
Yea this is known thing. Sex can be part of it but it’s not really all that important for this kind of thing. Those men (and sometimes women) are so desperate for intimacy they will literally pay for it.
It’s the macho way of going to therapy.
I used to know a gal who did SW at night, though at the time I wasn’t aware of her occupation. She’d regularly hang out with my buddy and I. One day he was complaining about his back and she offered him a massage, then offered me one as well as I’d been known to have a bad shoulder While it wasn’t the absolute best massage I’d had, it was up there above most places covered by my medical.
I could 100% see people paying for company and a non-sexual contact from somebody like that. She was good with people and had a sense for now to relax people physically and emotionally.
sex workers
don’t even have sex on their menus
🤔
Wait till you find out about Cam girls
really? what do you think i will discover when i find out?
Sex workers that dont have sex on the menu
if you don’t have sex on a menu, you are not a sex worker, that is literally definition of the word.
similar to when you don’t do politics, you are not a politician and when you don’t work in a field of medicine with a medical degree, you are not a medical doctor.
also sex does not necessarily mean “sex with you” or “vaginal penetration”.
with that being said, here is handful guide to “cam people” for you:
- that guy doing videos about physics: not a sexworker
- that girl doing videos about chess: not a sexworker
- that girl masturbating on a camera: sexworker
hope that helps.
What about a girl who says “lol gimme money cause im soooo hawwwwt” but doesnt get naked
Just sashaying up to the counter, “a number nine combo and a medium sex.”
“Sorry, we’re all out of sex. How about a hotly contested disagreement followed by rapprochement and eventually a blossoming mutual respect and admiration over the course of several months?”
Does it come with a side of friendship?
Probably 🤷
What kind of dipping sauce?
Wait there are 12 days of Christmas, you switched back way too soon you heathen!
You don’t want to know…
Doesn’t sound too bad
I’ll have two number 9s, a number 9 large, a number 6 with extra dip, a number 7, two number 45s, one with cheese, and a large soda.
Wanna round up for the tatas for tots foundation?
“Did you want fries with that?”
How much for a “hug n tug”?
Unironical, it kind of works like that. There are usual combos, and straying off from them costs extra.
It’s really not that surprising and I’d wager that non-intercourse sex work is vastly more common than the other
That sounds like therapy with touching and without the responsibility. Probably not a bad job.
With therapy you are a professional who is understood and respected as a professional. With sex work you are understood as a societal problem and being outed as having done sex work can harm other future career prospects.
Yes, everyone here understood that already
Yeah but without the years of training on how to manage and help people’s emotional problems.
and the years of training on compartmentalizing work and personal life.
True. Not a job for me anyway, people are just… ugh.
*to work with
Not funny in any way and sad in so many.
Commentary about how isolated men are?
Or commentary that men have become so ineffectual that they cannot create a single meaningful relationship that evolves to the hug level?
Some things can be blamed on the economy — not this. This is a matter of making first things first and not blaming others for our own short comings.
I don’t think it’s supposed to be funny.
It’s a common form of humor to acknowledge difficult things in a light hearted way. You can laugh whilst simultaneously feeling sympathy. Laughter doesn’t always have to be at somebody’s expense, it can also come from a place of solidarity.
Yeah, all of this is true.
Some things can be blamed on the economy — not this. This is a matter of making first things first and not blaming others for our own short comings.
This is connected to economy and politics. Neoliberalism, to be exact. Rugged individualism, individual responsibility, every man for himself… The same myths used for concentrating wealth into teeny tiny minority and making masses poorer, are also making us lonely and isolated.
We are pack animals, we have survived for hundreds of thousands of years (millions if you count non-sapient ancestors) by building communes and taking care of eachother.
We have ALWAYS had to have game.
The weak chimp could not get any quim.
The toughest chimp/gorilla became boss and literally had a harem.
I’m not sure what you are arguing for here.
I just want to inspire people to employ their “if at first you don’t succeed…” muscle. That’s all. Paying for intimacy is giving up.
And also… intimacy cannot be had in any kind of economic transaction.
Satisfaction? Yes.
Intimacy? No.
You realize that humans and gorillas have very different social dynamics? Can we drop the stupid pseudoscience?
It’s more that before, women couldn’t get fucking bank accounts or hold most jobs, which meant that marriage for them was a matter of survival. Now, women are able to support themselves and get to choose whether they want to be in relationships are not.
My audience is not women. It’s men.
I think it’s a comment about this artists need for affection more then a commentary about men in general.
Well, yes. But I do know a lot of men in their early twenties who just don’t know how to be… forgive me… but smooth, relaxed, casual with women.
A huge amount of sex workers’ actual jobs is giving just that level of intimacy and comfort.
If you are paying, she ain’t staying, and that ain’t intimacy— it’s delusion.
i pay for a burrito, then it was gone. it was an delusion.
miss my burrito.
Well… hunger isn’t intimacy either?
Just because something is ephemeral or even transactional does not mean it is not enjoyable.
I mourn for your burrito.
Funeral will be held tomorrow, final flush scheduled for 2pm,
Which sounds nice but it’s really a false intimacy unless you actually go on to develop a long term relationship with that sex worker.
I think one of the biggest contributors to our growing societal sense of alienation is all the surrogates we use for genuine adaptive functions. Everything from fast food to hardcore drugs has been optimized to mimic what are supposed to be honest signals in our brains that guide us toward making good choices in the long run. Intimacy (and feel-good hormones) are supposed to help us survive in the long term by building relationships and strengthening bonds that protect us against all the random risks of life. Building a sense of intimacy with a stranger that you never see again is ultimately going to lead to greater pain and a sense of loss down the road.
Why can’t Conservatism be this instead of lynching brown people and absolving child rapists QQ
Because societies with that level of intimacy have been eradicted years ago. The US in particular has been built by people who had uprooted themselves from the last remains of any such society.
Nah false intimacy is coming home to your girlfriend sleeping with your neighbor/best friend then she asks you for tree-fiddy so you look and you realize your girlfriend is about 500 feet tall and from the paleolithic era.
I AIN’T GIVING YOU NO TREE FIDDY YOU GODDAMN LOCH NESS MONSTER
hawt
Why bother connecting with a stranger, it’ll only end in sadness and pain
babe, go outside, call your parents or whatever. Life is built on these tiny meaningless interactions.
ps, you will not developda relationship with a sexworker, don’t approach things this way, would you build a fantasy life with a waiter or bar tender?
Any actual data on that?
Lol
Is this a commentary on the current psychological state of men or the economy?
both? both.
